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For me(n?), status only matters to the extent its a signal of shared experience/interests and a baseline level of maturity (is she going to want to go to museums or discuss interesting books with me? Will she tank the family finances with irresponsible spending? Will she be able to help our children with their homework?). Social status only matters in itself at the extremes (I'm not bringing a stripper to meet my parents), and in that I have a slight aversion to dating someone who makes substantially more than me (I work at a non-profit, so I've made my peace with the possibility of being slightly outearned, couldn't abide a situation where I felt financially dependent). If anything, her father's social status is more important, because it speaks to how she was raised and how she likely intends to raise our children, as well as what her expectations are for me.
Elementary school teacher is the single most attractive profession for a woman, in my opinion. It's a respectable middle class career, not highly remunerative or prestigious, but strongly signalling an affinity for and skill working with young children, as well as with hours/benefits ideally suited for raising children if she chooses to continue working after starting a family. A "high status" job like doctor or lawyer is slightly unattractive, because it sends opposite signals. I'm not looking for someone to help finance expensive vacations or get me into exclusive parties, I'm looking for someone who I enjoy spending time with and who will be a good mother, which if anything slightly anti-correlates with a high status career.
Of course earning potential looks bad when you frame all the upsides as being used to purchase disposable hedonistic experiences. Women provide half the genes, my doctor wife's gene combined with my software engineer genes are going to produce an autist that will rule the universe. The extra money can be spent on a home in a great school district where my kids will be among the kids of other people with great genes and highly agentic parents. And despite the caricature in right wing circles successful women are very much still in possession of nurturing instincts.
It all reads like the sour grapes of someone who thinks individuals need bad traits to counterbalance their good traits for it to be "fair", like it's a video game where the classes have been balanced. There can be downsides to pursuing high status to be sure, but having it is nearly a pure upside. Tales of how money is actually a curse are almost all cope.
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