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Culture War Roundup for the week of March 6, 2023

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Generally, one shouldn't attribute malice when incompetence is a valid explanation.

I have met a number of people in my life who got exactly zero training from their parents in how to date. I am quite baffled by this myself, as my parents gave me fairly clear norms for what was expected and what goals should be. Too many women who think that sleeping with guys would get them interested and men who believed in Hollywood style romantic gestures work. The idea that young people should tackle complicated life issues by following their feelings, being themselves would never be considered if giving investment advice or diet advice.

I don’t have a larger point for this post, only that it’s incredibly frustrating that a significant portion of mainstream culture has erected these standards for the dating marketplace where one false step not only does, but should result in social and moral annihilation.

The dating market is a behavioural sink, and a lot of women are deeply frustrated. They are probably ventilating a lot of pent-up anger at men who are inventing their own standards and definitions in the dating market. Totalitarian behaviour often follows behavioural sinks. Revolutions reach their totalitarian phase and require policing. We were all going to be free and liberated from norms, chaos ensues, now we need the state to enforce consent laws. While young men will go to the next Andrew Tate, I believe a lot of young women are going to go full morality police and try to control undesired behaviour in a mob-like fashion.

Could you expand on the concept of behavioural sinks in this context?

One guy starts to pretend he is serious in order to date women, pumps and dumps. This behaviour becomes more accepted and women become more short sighted and harder as a response. Narcissists that can abuse people and arent socially punished behave in ways that spread among the population. One woman puts semi nude pics online and gets loads of attention, now more women have to do it in order to get the attention. Some women start sleeping with guys on the first date, then women who want to wait 10 dates are in a pickle as guys might not wait that long making her pressured to sleep with a guy before she is ready. This perpetuates the trend as the guy once again got laid fast.