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Culture War Roundup for the week of March 6, 2023

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No, not phrased this way, of course. But (some) feminists have put in serious work to change the perception of women as prudish sexual innocents. They've even portrayed casual sex as crucial to their liberation.

The point of that is that women should not suffer negative consequences for having slept with (lots of) attractive men. It certainly isn't so that loser men can proposition them with impunity.

Women already know that loser men want to sleep with them. There is absolutely no rule change needed in that regard, except for them to stay in line and not pester someone above their station.

Instead, he's being treated as a predator.

See above.

I suspect that a very attractive man would have suffered a similar outcome to the poster, although perhaps with less social blowback and maybe later unsolicited requests for sex from other women.

I suspect that a very attractive man would have suffered a similar outcome to the poster, although perhaps with less social blowback

He would've probably got the "I'm flattered, but I'm not interested in this kind of relationship right now" line. Leonardo DiCaprio doesn't have any problems finding temporary girlfriends, even though all women know the "age chart" meme by now. No one has succeeded at blackballing blueballing him for his dating practices.

and maybe later unsolicited requests for sex from other women.

Mission accomplished.