The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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Looks like semaglutide would be a fairly easy improvement. Is it perfect? No. Is it better than what you have? Yes. And that's probably an attitude that could benefit you instead of the all-or-nothing idea of becoming exceptional.
Virgin how? You're gay and living in the age of smartphone apps. If you haven't hooked up with anyone that's because you've chosen not to. That's fine, it's your choice, but if you're waiting for that to be "perfect" too, and thinking it won't be perfect until you're perfectly ready for it to be perfect then it's going to continue to not happen. Sometimes hook ups can even become good friends too. And if it all goes sideways then at least you might gain some of those stories you're currently lacking.
You have to start failing actively instead of passively and embrace and iterate on your mistakes. I've been doing some woodwork in the past week. Would I like it to be beautiful heirloom quality? Of course! But it's turning out as chipped and wonky shit despite my best efforts. That's okay because it's pretty much what I'm expecting given my constraints and the end product does what I need it to. I'm also getting better and the things I did this week went better than the things I did last week. If I hadn't made those mistakes I'd still be un-improved and staring at a clutter of useless timber instead of useful albeit imperfect items, including some extra tools and jigs that I've had to make that then feed back into better quality productions.
You have to work with what's available. Seek out and exploit the most opportunities that you can out of your job/course/situation. You can't work with the friends that you don't have and the career that you don't have and the parties that you don't have any more than I can work with the 400sqft workshop that I don't have.
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