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Uh... hold up. So you're not young anymore, and you're not worried about getting caught, you just... enjoy watching porn with the sound off? That's the first time I've heard of this particular fetish... You might be unusual in your tastes. (Not that there's anything wrong with that, just saying...)
I don't find the audio quality to generally add to the experience, normally it's distracting and disgusting and takes me out of it. Not that I don't enjoy female copulatory vocalization, on my phone I have audio messages that partners recorded for me that I quite enjoy. But normally, when I'm viewing pornography I find that the over-done bad acting of the fake orgasms really turns me off rather than on, and I have no use for most of the scripted additions. I suppose there probably exists porn to my audio tastes, but it's not tagged as such or I never figured out how to find it and I've never dedicated the time to doing so, the tags are typically referring to the visual rather than the audio.
I enjoy the visuals, but typically the voice acting just takes me out of the whole thing, as I realize that I don't actually want to be there doing this with this woman. A silent naked woman I can imagine as my perfect partner, as the smart classmate or colleague of mine, as a vivacious and intelligent young thing that just happens to be a total whore for me. When she starts talking, I realize it's a porn star, doing a porn, and I don't find that all that interesting. Either she lacks believable enthusiasm, or she says stupid or corny things, and I'm just not into it. And I never really want to hear the man say anything, I can't remember that ever adding to my experience.
I'm sure if I dug around I'd find porn made to my specifications, but I don't really dedicate much time to this search and I'm not fluent in porn tags.
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In fairness, porn stars are selected for attractiveness and ability in the bedroom. They are not selected for acting ability, except in so far as faking an orgasm is a kind of acting. In porn with any kind of story, I imagine some people find the dialogue-heavy parts immersion-breaking.
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