The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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kinda tangential: A "personality" simply refers to tendencies in way a person acts. Trivially, you do choose the way you act - so you can 'change your personality' by acting differently. Regularities of a personality emerge as much from personal idiosyncrasies and genetic factors as they do the situation you're in, and the way you relate to the specific other people you interact with. As a weird but local example - a lot of motte regulars post on rdrama, sometimes with the same usernames - and their motte "personalities" are, just facially, absurdly different from their rdrama "personalities". This is because they use themotte for political and intellectual discourse, and rdrama for humor/mocking/exploring weird people and interactions.
Imo, the best way to make strong 'friendships', and indeed the best kind of friendship, is to undertake maybe somewhat serious, complicated, difficult, long-term - projects, shared activities, etc with specific people. Maybe it's a hobby, whether it's D&D or kayaking, maybe a lot of it is just 'discussing something you're both interested in', there are almost infinite options - but at a non-surface level, and in a way you both benefit from somehow. This also saves you from the 'im bad at small-talk' problem - if the other person/people are getting something else out of it with you, chitchat isn't bearing all the load, and you can chitchat about the activity at hand, which, due to being somewhat involved, should provide plenty of material. If we imagine the 'evolutionary origins' of friendship, it's less "people you do small talk with" and more "material alliances with competent and trustworthy people who live near you". e: reading Five's comment, his suggestions are great, for that reason.
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