The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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It sounds like she's experiencing a mode of self doubt. She needs to be reassured that you're strong and capable of providing the things she wants from a man and that she's doing what she should be doing by staying with you. If you want to keep the relationship together you need to show strength and reassurance that she's making the right decision to be with you, and not play into her self doubt.
Also I don't know your wife and maybe the email would make sense in the context of her personality but I had to read it multiple times before I understood what she was trying to say. It sounds like she may be a bit codependent with you and needs to find a sense of self worth outside of her relationship with you. She was probably seeking a relationship with someone to help her feel better about herself but she went into it feeling badly about herself and it hasn't gone away even though she could distract herself with the relationship for a while. Maybe give her some space to figure out what she dislikes about herself so she can improve, and support her as you can but be realistic that she will mostly have to work through these things on her own.
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