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Sure, if our terminology does not serve our purpose we should adjust our terminology so that it does, but the magnitude of the impact of the concerns expressed here are not clear to me.
It's not that it's a "dog" at anyone, necessarily, it's just that it is underspecified. In the same way there are some people who are ESL or uneducated who may not realize they have a cervix there are people who need pap smears who do not think of themselves as "women." Now, I think the people who have a cervix but aren't women are probably more likely to understand they should still get pap smears than people lacking in education or who are ESL but it's a similar kind of concern.
I am skeptical anything like all women agree with you. I can't speak to the concern directly but I'm a cis man and don't think of a term like "people with prostates" as disrespectful at all.
Speaking for myself, if someone calls me “person with a prostate” I will be at best very weirded out and would probably try to find the quickest way to get the fuck away from that person.
Wouldn't that depend on the context the term is used? "Room for rent, looking for people with a prostate" I agree is bizarre and dehumanizing; but "People with a prostate should occasionally get tested for prostate cancer" seems to me pretty reasonable, and if anything more precise than any plausible alternative. Similarly, I wouldn't be caught dead using "people who menstruate" as a term to refer to women in general, but something like "people who menstruate are at a greater risk for anhaemia" is if anything better targeted advice than "women are at a greater etc." (I think, I'm not an expert on anhaemia), given that a fairly large fraction of women do not menstruate and therefore are not the subject of that statement.
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I'm a cis man and I find this kind of language very creepy. It's uncomfortably reminiscent of the sort of intentionally distancing, unsettling and euphemistic language found in dystopian sci-fi.
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