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I'm not sure what this example is saying. Is this to say that you would you be okay with your perfectly vanilla heterosexual male relative changing your wife's, or a hypothetical 18 year old daughter's, underwear? Or, if not, do you think this is evidence that they should be jailed or removed from society in some other way, rather than just not letting them do that (resp. not letting your diaper fetishist relative change your infant's diaper)?
My reading of the conversation is that I was arguing that it is not tactically advantageous for the "anti-pedo" camp to tie its disgust-signalling and demands for punishment to the relevant sexual preferences rather than the relevant acts. To this, you responded that you personally want to shun those with the preferences regardless of any concrete acts, and this "isn't really avoidable" (meaning that you think there will be many others like you?). In context, I assume that your intent was to argue against my thesis - that is, you think that you/many wanting to shun those who have the sexual preference is an argument in favour of coordinating disgust signalling or concrete punishment against it.
My retort is that this argument would prove too much - either you are in fact okay with the adult-oriented heterosexual examples that I listed, or you are not (your most recent reply indicates the latter). In that case, however, consistency demands that you consider it an equally strong argument for censuring/booing/jailing normal heterosexual men for their orientation.
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