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I take issue with the bad personal hygiene and trust fund status. The usual complaintants are usually well funded through their own personal earnings and frankly the hygiene thing never did at all in my experience, high functioning people who question they're success aren't low hamging fruit like bathing. Seriously, the idea that this is someone earning well enough to sponsor a family coming over while also not having figured out that inoffensive smells factored in is a venn diagram containing only the severely autistic. It's nearly disqualifying that you actually unironically reference it.
I do accept them being 450 lbs and repulsive, but I think there is still room to feel love there. But I think merely very obese would be more fair.
Mmm...more like: how about this.
There isn't an exact one-to-one correspondence here. Women generally are more sensitive to disgust than guys are. I don't know about sex differences in habituation to disgust, but it's plausible that guys can get used to nasty shit easier, too. Sex is a hell of a lot riskier for women, so it makes sense that it'd be harder and more painful/difficult for women to have sex with guys they were disgusted by. It's a contrived and very unlikely hypothetical here - I'm aware of that. On the other hand, it could easily be argued that women find autism straight up disgusting, and for a number of relatively good reasons; other men aren't as grossed out by it. That's why I'm making our wealthy hero pretty goddamn gross.
This being said...you personally might be OK with this obese, smelly, gross trust-fund transman if they're saving your family of origin from crushing poverty or paying for your brother's lifesaving cancer treatment or something like that.
Huh, I have the opposite intuition. From what I can tell women are less sensitive to that kind of thing than men unless we're defining disgust very broadly. Partnering up with the highest status/propertied man with little regard to other factors has been a quite dominant female reproductive strategy for a long time.
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