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In Mormonism (and, to a slightly lesser extent, orthodox Christianity) because one is a violation of a promise wrapped up in a sacrament, and the other is common-or-garden boorishness. It is similar to how lying about office sex having sworn an oath to tell you the truth, and called divine judgement down on yourself if you forswear is worse than casually lying about bombing an aspirin factory. Except more so, because judicial oaths simply invoke the name of god while touching a holy book, whereas sacraments are basically real-world cleric spells.
What I find more interesting is the total inversion of the principle in secular (and secularised nominally-Christian) culture. The thing that crystallised this for me was the Ryan Giggs superinjunction affair - both sides of the debate agreed that the interests being balanced were Ryan Giggs' right to conceal his affair from his wife and children vs. Imogen Thomas's right as a vulnerable victim to tell her own story (and get paid for it). But it goes back further - even Christian conservatives talked about the Clinton sex scandals as if Monica was more of a victim than Hilary. (For the avoidance of doubt, under the traditional Christian conservative standard the "other woman" was also contemptible - terms like "homewrecker" were not compliments).
Matthew Parris wrote a book of famous British political scandals in the early noughties, and one of the points he made in the closing essay is that since the 1980's it has been easier for politicians to survive a sex scandal if they divorce their wife and marry their mistress than if they dump the mistress and return to their wife. This is also consistent with the "the other woman is the real victim" frame.
Modern secular culture no longer believes that we owe our spouses fidelity. It does believe that men owe the women they are fucking (regardless of the official nature of the relationship) some kind of fair dealing which is incompatbile with carrying on with a mistress while planning to return to your wife.
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