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I feel like I single out your comments for scrutiny and end up replying to them, but I want to stress that I don't do this in a negative way.
When you suggest young women want (if anything) from men attention that puzzles me, because I feel like young (and old) men give women lots of attention. Loads, even. In fact the attention given them is often deflected back as unwanted attention, creepiness, etc. I'm sure there's a model for this that I'm not perceiving for whatever reason.
One aspect I suppose is that attention isn't given any more equally to all women than it is to all men.
The model is that all attention is not considered equal. An old black guy commenting "Beauitful! :O :O :O" on your Insta post showing off your body is not considered equal to a young male model-type called Branden Alexander-Vanderbilt posting the same comment.
Consider two situations: an old lady gives you the look in the street vs. a beautiful young woman.
Well sure, that's the hot take. No offense intended. I was wondering if that same POV is held by @2rafa
I think it's a hot take if the idea is that young women all crave attention or that young women are fundamentally different from young men in this respect. Otherwise, it's simply common sense that humans (regardless of sex) generally enjoy approval from people whose opinions they regard as salient.
(I also think that a lot of young women don't have to put out for attention. They have to put out for commitment from certain men. Of course, as a woman is less attractive, the amount/status of attention she gains increases, and the amount of commitment she can obtain from a given man decreases.)
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