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I think that's part of the story -- there are very few equivalents as extreme as the Folsom Street Fair in het worlds, and those that exist aren't as well-known.
On top of that there's further complications because a lot of gay-specific interests are different than het-specific ones. I'm hoping the gay male interest in exhibitionism is at least partly an artifact of having to hide more modest and SFW sexuality, but it's absolutely more common as a gay male interest. While exhibitionism might be unusually vulnerable to causing undesirable results for passerbies due to its own nature, a good number of others are just weird. Pup play ends up in a similar boat. They're weirder because they're things that are less common (or nearly unheard of, for pup play) in het circles. But there are kinks that go the other direction.
On the gripping hand, I'm not convinced that in a world where camera phones were invented a decade earlier, we would have avoided sex tapes of Bill Clinton ruining a cigar. A lot of the late-80s early-90s Civil Rights Act feminism, for all I complain about its more recent excesses, was in response to employers forcing employees into (het) sex and other sexual behaviors in public. For a less disquieting example, simulated sex in public actually does show up in a lot of adjacent straight contexts -- Mardi Gras may have less literal fucking in the streets than the Folsom Street Fair, but it still has a lot of public grinding, as do certain dance clubs. That exhibitionism is a more common kink among gay men doesn't make it nearly-unheard of among straights or women.
That’s like saying a demented walmart manager chopping my arms off with a chainsaw constitutes discrimination and a hostile shopping environment. The intention behind this bizarre categorization is to paint the benign and mundane with the same brush as the criminal and abhorrent, requiring ever increasing state monitoring and control.
They should never have accepted that argument from a sex-neg rad-fem who refuses to distinguish between rape and intercourse.
This is the real ‘cultural marxism’ conspiracy to destroy normal human interaction. A "feminist theory of the state"? They should be more subtle next time.
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