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Wellness Wednesday for December 27, 2023

The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:

  • Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.

  • Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.

  • Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.

  • Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).

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Hey man, good on you for taking the leap. You're probably right that she's not the one if you're not entirely sure. You're probably also right that you don't know who or what you're really looking for yet. It takes time and experience to know.

Believe it or not, this is actually a unique and wonderful time that you will look back on with fondness. I remember my young breakups and boy do you FEEL like you've never FELT before. It's sad, it's powerful, it's bitterly beautiful. Embrace it, feel it, listen to sad music, draw a picture, just really get it out of your system. You won't be able to feel this hard when you get older (or you will, but it will be a lot less romantic and a lot more bitter). Young hormones are a hell of a(n awesome) drug.

Watch this video and give it a think. I think I watch it once a year, it really puts things into perspective for me. https://youtube.com/watch?v=V_eCrIO0ECw?feature=shared