5434a
1d ago
I don't see it as being about capital L legitimacy or anything like that, more about how to engage in normal observations about stuff like how a kid takes after their parents. Nobody particularly cares whether a kid has one parent's nose or whatever (apart from their parents, obviously), but those aspects still represent and embody small L lineage and legitimacy.
With straight parents the natural assumption is that they are the biological parents and so there's no question to ask, and explicitly asking who the "real" parent is would be liable to start a fight. With a gay couple it's a natural assumption that at least one of them isn't the biological parent for obvious reasons, and as such it's natural to be curious which one is. But it's usually rude to ask, hence OP's question of just how rude it would be.
5434a
3d ago
Not as catchy and not explicitly gendered but when I hear "Disney adult" I think of women.
5434a
3d ago
The worst accents in English are all Anglophone but for non-Anglophone maybe Brazilian.
5434a
5d ago
In women's defence they stop viewing us as cute because we stop being cute. If the average man is anything like me, and I'm a very average type of a man, there's a distinct change from being silly kids who want to show them the cool thing that we discovered into randy buggers who mostly just want to see their tits and are put out that they're reluctant to oblige.
Looking at the guy's Twitter though he just reads like a contrarian shitposter. It's reminiscent of Hlynka's bit about people being so immersed in a woke-adjacent worldview that even their rejection of it is framed in the same terms. It's very "You want navel-gazing idpol gender conflict? Okay, but this time men are the victims! Ha!".
5434a
6d ago
If we don't collect the data we'll never understand the statistical sigificance of people who don't know their own sex.
5434a
8d ago
If you want cynicism then the next step is "They still can't be held responsible because science says now their brains are in decline". Heads they win, tails you lose.
It doesn't take achieving the utmost zenith of cerebral maturation to grasp that robbing a gun shop is breaking the law and invites serious consequences, and as such the matter of peak brain development is moot. Normal brain development for their age is more than adequate. And if they cynically calculate that claiming inadequate brain development is a mitigation then by the same token they should lose their remaining adult privileges.
5434a
8d ago
What does "fully" developed mean? Does it matter? It's not like people are useless potatoes until one day in their mid 20s the switch is thrown and everything lights up. Young adults can and do function in the knowledge that serious crimes are serious crimes. These are not complex abstract concepts, certainly not as complex as deliberately not cooperating with the police is.
5434a
9d ago
80-90%. The misses are usually because I get so fed up of not finding what I'm looking for that I end up compromising and regretting it.
5434a
12d ago
There's a workaround for Freetube. Settings > Subscription > turn on RSS. The thumbnails will lack the runtime and some other minor things but it's better than nothing.
5434a
14d ago
Is it a difference of degree you're seeing or is it a difference of kind?
Like, you can use the same job interview coach to help you get a job at Greenpeace or at Blackwater.
Some people might use PUA to recklessly womanise without a second thought for the hearts they break. Some might use it to seek a wife to start a family with. Some might model themselves on Carnegie to better raise funds for a worthy charity but some might use it to defraud pensioners. The underlying dynamics can use the same commonalities (canned openers, demonstrate value, assume rapport, build trust, exploit the fear of missing out, always be closing, etc).
Manipulation doesn't have to be all or nothing and it doesn't have to be purely right or wrong. The trouble with PUA and Carnegie types is they both trend towards inauthenticity in the pursuit of effectiveness.
5434a
15d ago
Carnegie wasn't an altruist, he was a sales coach. PUA in turn was derived from the same lineage of sales psychology, the difference is instead of selling magazine subscriptions to housewives you're pitching yourself to single women (while pitching your coaching to single men).
They both made the point of self improvement being an effective means of increasing the appeal of what you're selling but their focus was on the psychology of selling because advice on health, education and fashion and so on are better handled by other sources.
5434a
16d ago
Commonly the most dangerous kind of sex that women perform is prostitution. The most dangerous kind of sex that men perform is cruising for gay sex in societies that are hostile to homosexuality. I'd say they're broadly comparable in risk of arrest, assault and health consequences. The major difference is the gay men do it for free.
What confuses me when this question comes up and people start umming and aaahing about whether women can be as horny as men, and qualifying it with contingencies ("but if she's a free range, fresh air and sunshine teenager, in a steady stable relationship with a man she wants children with, and he's a bereaved old man who has been eating polystyrene and wearing frozen Speedos 24/7..."), what confuses me is the underlying assumption that being horny is something enviable that women are disadvantaged by not being the equal of men. Being horny isn't a positive experience. At best it's distracting, at the worst it's disturbing, and often leads to behaviour which can have unwanted consequences.
5434a
17d ago
I don't believe that anyone is hornier than teenage boys. That's the age where "don't stick your dick in that" memes come from. Also fighting and the other risky and impulsive actions teen boys are notorious for.
I'm not so sure about women. Being horniest in the teenage years makes sense on the simple biological basis of being ready to reproduce correlating with strong impulses to do so, but there's a line of argument that the reduction of oestrogen after menopause increases the ratio of testosterone and can result in a subjectively higher libido.
5434a
17d ago
Mid 90s saw the term old school start to pick up in usage to refer to anything from the 1980s right the way up to the early 90s.
5434a
18d ago
if it's a $10k one-off, with heavy government encouragement.
It's no longer a technological solution and has become a social and political problem, so you're kind of back where you began.
Why not cut out the middleman and pay them $10k for their first baby, no IVF required? Or $10k for each baby born before whatever cut-off age where IVF becomes relevant. There's a few dials you can adjust there and it seems like less government involvement and propaganda required than adding in the IVF step.
5434a
19d ago
In my experience spammers use as much colour as they can. Brown is the colour of choice for the sort of faceless state bureaucracy responsible for matters of compliance.
5434a
19d ago
Not formal enough.
Sorry, I mean "following inspection the invitation was found to include concerning levels of humanity".
I hope you're sending these through the post in brown envelopes with a little cellophane address window.
5434a
21d ago
What happens for the students who achieve the objective? Do those top colleges provide any teaching, or is it self made graduates all the way down (all the way up)?
5434a
23d ago
My perplexity is in learning that "hot drinks" is interpreted by those it affects in a way that includes certain cold drinks and precludes certain hot drinks. That's all. It's such a simple rule with such low stakes that I find it difficult to think of how it became contentious.
5434a
24d ago
I just find it interesting that effectively someone can sit there drinking one hot drink while condemning someone else for drinking a different hot drink, or potentially a drink that has never been hot, under the authority of and despite the relevant passage unambiguously referring to "hot drinks".
I'm not trying to start an argument but this seems like it's purpose built for starting arguments.
5434a
24d ago
I tapped out on Les Miserables at page ~500 due to its unsatisfying filler:killer ratio and read the synopsis on Wikipedia instead. Can't win them all.
Now reading some Will Self short stories.
5434a
25d ago
Mormon prohibition of tea and coffee
Reading around apparently it comes from the Mormon Words Of Wisdom "hot drinks are not for the body or belly", which gets interpreted as tea and coffee. But drinking hot herbal tea is okay, and hot chocolate is okay, and caffeine in non-coffee drinks is okay, but cold tea and coffee aren't, even though the original text doesn't mention tea, coffee or caffeine.
I couldn't find a clear answer whether you can drink cold decaffeinated coffee. Some say yes, some some say no.
The problem for police is that they constantly have to deal with hardcore defectbots, so when they end up with a cooperate bot they habitually hit defect because 9/10 it's the sensible move.
"I know my rights" "You can't touch me that's assault" "I've got mental health" "Fucking racist police" "Stop touching me up you pervert" "She stabbed me" "I didn't do nothing" "He's the one who started it" "I can't breathe" "I get claustrophobia" "You should catch the real criminals" "I need my medicine" "These handcuffs are too tight" "You have to let me go" "You like to pick on little people don't you" "Those aren't mine" "Why aren't you helping me" "I've never seen that before" "He's a liar" "I need a doctor" "I haven't touched a drop" "They're getting away" "I got lost and I thought this was my house" "It's only a little bit" "He was filming me" "I'm allergic" "You're making my baby cry" "I'm dying" "Why should I" "Don't tase me bro" "I didn't see him" "It's cos I'm black" "I want him to leave me alone" "According to the magna carta" "You're giving me anxiety" "She told me she was over 18" "I'm not resisting" "Watch out I'm HIV" "You've got the wrong person" "I paid full price for that" "You're hurting me" "Do you know who I am" "I swear to god I'm telling you the truth" "This is fascism" "You're making a mistake" "I thought it was legal" "It was an accident" "I bet you can't even count to a thousand with your eyes closed"
Which ones are genuine? Did you read all of them and give each one careful individual consideration, or did you tune out as they blurred into ambient whining?
I assume that police have enough training and common sense to provide first aid or call for an ambulance for anyone who appears to be badly injured. I also assume they have enough negative experiences to be sceptical of a suspect who doesn't appear to be badly injured claiming they are. Since they treated Nowak with scepticism instead of medical attention I assume that his injuries appeared to be minor and in the context more akin to a drinker who had just lost a fistfight.
If you train police to check suspects for unseen injuries all you're going to find is the majority of suspects don't have any unseen injuries, but they do have a propensity to attack or try to escape while you're distracted because they've learnt that saying they're injured creates that opportunity. Of course if you can see they're injured you can make your own assessment and don't need to factor in their honesty.
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