Ademonera
15d ago
I’ve read the Emily Gould cut piece on escaping divorce and found it insightful and raw without reading like self indulgent masturbation like so many of these pieces.
It’s just funny how people in these insular, catty New York writer social circles get to therapy talk through anything, ever. Wild to do mental gymnastics on top of your luxury belief system to find some weird combination of buzzwords to justify the antisocial thing you did.
They also get to just do workplace gossip like the WaPo Halloween party story. Bad takes are less brazen than before ‘woke was dead’ but, just like streaming media these days, I’m not really up for a lecture from someone who has a narrow and bizarre view of the world they wanna proselytize. Not to mention, the cut often gets these pieces from people that are writing about a big struggle they had, which the writer obviously is going to see themselves as the good guy in.
What do you think of male-female dating dynamics relative to the culture war? I have a lot of thoughts on this but ultimately think the people worth pursuing are not crossing people off their list because they don’t believe in X or Y.
But it might be beyond your control. As an American, I remember swiping on tinder in London and seeing ‘Do not swipe if you are Republican’ but they replaced the word with something called the Tories. Clearly some people will only date people that share the same ideology. Which is fair if you want someone to nod along to whatever you say, I guess.
It gets tricky when you outright pretend to believe things you don’t. It’s not courageous or respectable. Not apologizing for what you believe is paramount to gaining the respect of your partner. Obviously, when I say this, I’m really talking about relatively conservative men dating liberal women. And honestly, except for far left people like Hasan piker that glorify violent revolution in such a way that they do a 360 and put off conservative ethos, I do think men women find attractive aren’t the male feminist, Bernie bro type. It’s almost like a yin and yang thing where you want some tension with your ideals.
Unlike religion, I really don’t see a need to agree with my SO on much of anything (odd to me that JD Vance and Usha married despite this). It’s sad to think that, on the spectrum of ‘not scaring the hoes’ political ideology, you could have a good thing with someone, say the wrong thing, and lose a relationship because of it.
Only thinking this because I’m coming to terms that I don’t necc need to date a based woman who appreciates old Sam Hyde stuff and edgy right wing leaning online happenings. I’d rather not select for political belief, find someone that will lightly argue with me, and has no interest in that stuff. Likewise, I’ll voice my opinion to her but not make fun of her for being on bluesky or whatever
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