AvocadoPanic
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AvocadoPanic
2yr ago
live a thoroughly miserable existence attached to someone who you don't really love or feel attracted to
This seems a particularly worse case outcome.
Men with same sex attraction seem especially prone to drug, chemical, alcohol and parphillia induced or adjacent sexual activity. This seems throughly miserable to me. I guess they're fortunate that in current year there's an abundance of degeneracy to allow them to live their inner truths publicly.
'Straight' people sublimate all sorts of impulses and desires into more traditionally socially acceptable directions.
AvocadoPanic
2yr ago
ephebophile would be more accurate in the heterosexual context, though I've seen pederast used as a synonym
AvocadoPanic
2yr ago
Aren't the high profile attention seeking ex-gays more likely to be performative?
The ex-gay thing is a bit weird but in a similar way so is the detrans thing, both have some genuine members that were likely groomed / self groomed into alphabetism. That there's no reliable treatment or search for a cure among the establishment. There isn't t a well worn path out. Much mental illnesses chronic. Worse many of this cohort are subject to vitriol from their former alphabet compatriots.
I know several seemingly happy, married with children, people that were practicing LGB in the 90's. They don't talk about it, and would be unlikely to join an ex-gay organization.
Elsewhere in this thread it was claimed that the largest increase in alphabetism was amongst the 'B', presumably they have more options / choices. Am I still B if I've not had sexual activity other than my opposite sex spouse in 20 years?
The destigmatization and ease of divorce as it fits into the larger context of the sexual revolution and feminism has had a number of deleterious effects.
self fulfillment over duty
It's a very particular type of self fulfillment that frequently looks like self-centeredness or narcissism.
How many white parties and how much cock does it take to find self fulfillment? I find this less creepy than marriage and gaybies, and the associated assisted reproduction baby trafficking.
AvocadoPanic
2yr ago
There's not infrequent messaging warning young women and girls about predatory pederasts. You can find frequent discussions by women and girls recounting when they first felt the leers of men as the objects of male sexual desire. That many will use the vocabulary of victimization I think is unhelpful.
Is there still messaging directed at boys and young men warning of the homosexual pederast? Do men and boys still have male only spaces where they're allowed to exclude homosexuals to have the frank discussions necessary to convey the danger posed?
AvocadoPanic
2yr ago
remains largely impossible
How long do they have to desist from same sex behavior before they're straight, a year, five?
It's possible for people to find their way out of homosexuality, but if they've made it large portion of their identity and social group it's difficult, like leaving a cult.
AvocadoPanic
2yr ago
they've "won" almost everything their entire lives
Musk was bullied in school in SA
AvocadoPanic
2yr ago
Pete, Chase and their gayby?
AvocadoPanic
2yr ago
would be gay
This musical documentary claims there's a 'Golden Rule', that it's not gay when it's in a three-way.
AvocadoPanic
2yr ago
increased susceptibility to real terrorists
Likely describes 10's if not 100's of thousands of people. Is the FBI going to arrest them all one at time?
Perhaps the recruiter groomer should have gone for stupid idpol instead.
AvocadoPanic
2yr ago
blows himself up in a mall
Except in this instance there's no claim he had actually communicated with actual terrorists, only FBI pretending to be terrorist recruiters.
Isn't the expectation that the FBI should be disrupting terrorist networks? There's no network here only the FBI communicating with a young man described by his father to The Intercept as;
“He was born prematurely, he had brain development issues. I had the school do a neurosurgery evaluation on him and they said his brain was underdeveloped,” Ventura said. “He was suffering endless bullying at school with other kids taking food off his plate, tripping him in the hallway, humiliating him, laughing at him.”
AvocadoPanic
2yr ago
Supernatural - There's a lot of it. I like the relationship between the brothers and the importance of family.
AvocadoPanic
2yr ago
Possibly in terms of watching competition as entertainment. It's a very small portion of women that participate in women's athletics via organized competition. Nor do the women who participate benefit in the same way that men do, as women's achievements are not valued as much by men as men's achievements by women.
AvocadoPanic
2yr ago
In a university town, or near a research hospital these women should be easy to meet. Finding the subset that's ok with no marriage, no kids, may be more challenging.
Men and women are different. Why wouldn't these differences surface in their approaches to competition?
Traditionally competition amongst women is much less direct than competition among men, I suspect oweing to the traditional venus for competition and lessor roles in public life.
Also it's typically only women that care about womens competition, if that.
AvocadoPanic
2yr ago
shit for being in AP
or GATE is more anti-intellectual or just regular nerd bullying.
AvocadoPanic
2yr ago
never in all my life seen a man effected
It's pride month. Have you had much experience with men with same sex attraction? There's a cohort amongst this group that love shitting on others, in the sense you mean it.
AvocadoPanic
2yr ago
Streetcar suburbs are the opposite of a car-dependent development and are not a problem.
They may be car-dependent now if there street cars are gone. In the one near me it does keep the homeless and adjacent criminal elements from the nearby city from riding public transit out to the suburbs.
AvocadoPanic
2yr ago
It's been my experience that people like me, or find me attractive for reasons I don't or didn't expect. Frequently for reasons I didn't value or see in myself.
Having to be 'on' when out can be tiring.
I was fortunate, while being out and on, I found a thoughtful analytical woman. We enjoyed staying in, being quiet, thoughtful and analytical together.
Is it your perception that you're only liked when clowinsh?
Have you told any of the women that you've met that you're looking for a wife and mother of your children? Even if it's only in general and not her specifically?
It can help you by getting this larger social group that already likes you, even if your perception is that they only like the clown, to help you find the partner you want.
The universe is unlikely to send you a thoughtful, analytical, fertile women in a meet cute scenario. You need to actively look, and be upfront with what you want.
Telling women early you want a wife and children may scare some off. That's ok, they're not who your looking for. If you tell them and they stay, they're candidates. Don't take them to the places / times where you need to be on. Go places you can walk and talk and be thoughtful.
The advice for online dating, is to move to IRL as soon as possible. For me I needed to move to where I wasn't 'on' as soon as possible. Women that were looking for a light, easy goodtime would loose interest. Women that wanted a husband and father for their children may think, still waters run deep, and enjoy getting to know this truer self you reveal to her.
Do you have any proxies to help identify the sort of woman you want? For me, women in science, specifically lab sciences where she is or was doing bench work. I found many to be of a temperament that suited me. People often talk more about their work, than their personalities or desires in a partner. I've also found that how people talk about their work can be more revealing than their (mis)perceptions about themselves.
Also if there's anywhere you can go to be thoughtful and analytical that there are also women; public lectures / talks etc. These are good places to take women on 'dates', gives you something to discuss / argue about over a meal later.
AvocadoPanic
2yr ago
I understand you prefer cycling alone. I often prefer my own company. Throughout my life I've never felt lonely when alone. Participation in occasional group activities does not preclude preferred activities alone.
In a reply to another post you acknowledge when under the influence you can see that
my routines and patterns of behavior may not be optimal
This may be one of those patterns. I've found women, when evaluating a potential partner, like to see that he has friends. Also a larger social group, even fairly shallow attachments, are very helpful when looking for a spouse.
Participation in these groups may feel unnatural and unrewarding. I would encourage you to persist and try more / different groups and settings. Any Irish pubs near you that have a regular music session?
AvocadoPanic
2yr ago
You don't have to join to attend. Our church, fairly conservative, welcomes people interested in the historical christian faith, regardless of belief.
If your going to be obnoxious about your disbelief you may find nobody will sit next to for coffee and cake afterwards in the fellowship hall.
AvocadoPanic
2yr ago
Yes, but I think that was @2rafa point a bit with;
People are deeply hostile to the reality
Find a partner, settle down, marry is the advice that teenagers should be getting from secular society.
It can be done by an older woman, we have four children 2 years apart. My wife was 41 for the last. She was 26 when we married.
I think 22 - 24 and pregnant, even 16 and pregnant is better than 40 and no children.
AvocadoPanic
2yr ago
Marry...
I've done this more or less. Reasonably happy. No desire to join the Wagner Group. Wife is homeschooling next year, Latin is in the curriculum.
AvocadoPanic
2yr ago
Isn't it women birthing and then caring for the three or more children?
AvocadoPanic
2yr ago
Hasn't the DNC already said no debates too? I can see why if Biden is the candidate, but still.
I'd like to see a Trump and DeSantis bromance. Like a mismatched Jack and Bobby.
Have you seen "Boys Beware"? The stereotype of the sinister predatory homosexual was for a time the only depiction of male homosexuals in popular media.
I was more concerned with the exclusion of adult homosexuals from spaces traditionally for men and boys.
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