Awarenesss
6mo ago
TL;DR:
- My girlfriend rarely exercises on her own and I do not like this
- I think it will become an issue for her and our relationship down the line
- Bringing it up is risky and I would prefer not to (she was dismissive last time I asked and said she'll get back to it, but still hasn't)
- Looking for advice on her to get her to enjoy exercise more.
I do not want her to become reliant on me to exercise for a few reasons:
- I won't and don't want to always be there to motivate and/or compel her to exercise
- I'm not interested in dating someone long-term who isn't into exercise because of the greater likelihood they will end up unhealthy (and thus potentially less attractive to me)
Some background on her and us:
- She is slightly overweight around the belly area and very self-conscious about it. If I said something it would hurt her feelings.
- She had a personal trainer that she saw 2-3 times a week, but has since dropped him due to increasing costs
- She has a gym membership that is 10 min from her house, access to an apartment gym, and access to a nice walking/running trail
- She requires a mindless program: someone telling her what to do and how to do it, whether in the gym or on the treadmill
- She's used ClassPass in the past and enjoyed it
- I've offered to buy her a bike for us to spend quality time together riding (I'm a competitive cyclist) but she declined
- She knows I'm very into exercise and that I would be willing to support her exercise goals
My plan:
- Encourage us to eat healthily when together
- Schedule one gym day a week for us to train together at her gym
- Set New Year goals for each of us and encourage her to have a fitness one (I'm a believer in Scott Adams' "goals are for losers, systems are for winners", so maybe I'll approach the system way with her)
- She's mentioned a TikTok person has a fitness program that she'd be interested in, but I think it may be too on the nose and she'd take it the wrong way
Any other advice or ideas that have worked for you all, man or woman?
Awarenesss
7mo ago
After three years in a house far away from people my age, I'm finally moving back into an apartment. I'm looking for two types of advice/help/etc:
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How to make friends in an apartment complex? I'm planning on going to the pool in summer months, saying hi in the hallways, starting an apartment group chat (if there isn't one already), introducing myself to the neighbors on the first day, maybe hosting an event, etc. Any other ideas that are simple and effective?
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Quality of life improvements I can make to an apartment? I'm planning on Hue lights for simulating sunrise in my bedroom, installing a smart thermostat, and a bidet. Open to anything else!
Awarenesss
7mo ago
Awarenesss
8mo ago
From https://psychologyinrussia.com/volumes/pdf/2018_2/psych_2_2018-1_glozman.pdf. Bolded links are probably what you're thinking of?
- Luria, A.R. (1928). The problem of the cultural behavior of the child. Journal of Genetic Psychology, 35(3), 493–506. https://doi.org/10.1080/08856559.1928.10532168
- Luria, A.R. (1931). Psychological expedition to central Asia, Science, 74, 383–384. https://doi. org/10.1126/science.74.1920.383
- Luria, A.R. (1933). The second psychological expedition to central Asia. Science, 78, 191–192. https://doi.org/10.1126/science.78.2018.191-a
- Luria, A.R. (1971). Towards the problem of the historical nature of psychological processes. International Journal of Psychology, 6, 259–272. https://doi.org/10.1080/00207597108246692
- Luria, A.R. (1973). Skhema neuropsykhologicheskogo obsledovaniya [A schema of neuropsychological assessment]. Moscow: Moscow University Press.
- Luria, A.R. (1974). Ob istoricheskom razvitii poznavatelnykh protsessov [On the historical development of cognitive processes]. Moscow: Nauka.
- Luria, A.R. (1976). Cognitive development: Its cultural and social foundations. Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press.
Awarenesss
11mo ago
At the risk of being insufferably pedantic and because you seem to care, there should be a comma after “i.e.” (or “e.g.”, for that matter).
Awarenesss
11mo ago
I think it is copyrighted. See "Access And Usage Rights" section here: https://collections.library.yale.edu/catalog/12481060
Awarenesss
11mo ago
Thanks! Completely missed that version.
Market was probably the wrong word to use here. I’d transcribe and offer for free via Internet Archive or similar, but I think that would still be infringement. Ah well!
Awarenesss
11mo ago
I cannot find a high-quality digital or audio copy of Henry Kissinger’s senior thesis, The Meaning of History, besides this crappy scan from archive.org.
If no one has one, would there be a market for me transcribing it?
Awarenesss
11mo ago
Please link the studies.
Awarenesss
11mo ago
But there’s not a question here.
I'm the organizer for my city's LW/SSC/Rationality (capital R) meetup. We have a similar demographic to the one you experienced, minus the "many in the greater..." part. Most of our group is 30 or younger, with a few 40+ people sprinkled in. Engagement varies in a pattern I've yet to study or understand: some socials get 10+ people out, others three; some purposeful meetups (i.e., we're discussing topic X) get eight, others a mere two. (I suspect it's a combination of unlucky schedule misalignments, the topic only appealing to a handful of people, and it often being a hastily-designed event due to my personal time/energy constraints.)
Nothing major has come out of the group at a collective level. I hold an annual goals meetup on the first week of January designed to help members network with each other to find similar people and potential accountability partners, but it ends up with people stating their goals and never following up on them until the next year when they've been forgotten. Some members hang out with each other outside of the group. I've started accountability partnerships with a few. I do think there's opportunity given the average member's intelligence and ambition.
I think regularly attending is largely worthwhile solely because of the people you meet there. I don't have many IRL friends interested in the topics we discuss, so the meetups are a good outlet to talk about things in person, especially with people smarter than me! Consider attending more and trying to grow the group without sacrificing the member quality.
Regarding new/younger writers in the space: I don't know of anyone besides myself (and I wouldn't even count myself considering how small of a following I have). I graduated from undergrad in 2020 and regularly post on my website/publish monthly changes to Substack. Happy to DM you if you're interested in the link. (I don't want to post it here because it feels like improper advertising.)
Awarenesss
11mo ago
I just got back from Boston a few weeks ago. I found just walking around the city to be very fun.
A few touristy recommendations in no particular order:
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Kane's Donuts (did you know the Boston Creme Donut is legally the official donut of Massachusetts?)
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Freedom Trail
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Bunker Hill monument (although they prevent people from climbing if the heat index is greater than 95 °F—weak!)
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F1 arcade
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Monica's Mercato: delicious, massive sandwiches inside a small Italian grocery store
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My group played a very fun game of sardines at Public Garden
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If you're a chess player, there's a hustler (who may not be good enough to earn that title) who plays outside of the Sam Adams taphouse for free (tips encouraged) and is decent. He beat me, but tried to cheat in the process, so whoop his ass for me if you do end up playing.
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Cambridge area
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Charles River esplanade
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Fenway Park, as others have mentioned. I'm not a baseball fan but was getting major FOMO when I dropped my friends off to continue exploring.
Have you considered asking an LLM? I bet they would give great ideas, plus you can personalize it by providing extra info.
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