Awarenesss
11mo ago
TL;DR:
- My girlfriend rarely exercises on her own and I do not like this
- I think it will become an issue for her and our relationship down the line
- Bringing it up is risky and I would prefer not to (she was dismissive last time I asked and said she'll get back to it, but still hasn't)
- Looking for advice on her to get her to enjoy exercise more.
I do not want her to become reliant on me to exercise for a few reasons:
- I won't and don't want to always be there to motivate and/or compel her to exercise
- I'm not interested in dating someone long-term who isn't into exercise because of the greater likelihood they will end up unhealthy (and thus potentially less attractive to me)
Some background on her and us:
- She is slightly overweight around the belly area and very self-conscious about it. If I said something it would hurt her feelings.
- She had a personal trainer that she saw 2-3 times a week, but has since dropped him due to increasing costs
- She has a gym membership that is 10 min from her house, access to an apartment gym, and access to a nice walking/running trail
- She requires a mindless program: someone telling her what to do and how to do it, whether in the gym or on the treadmill
- She's used ClassPass in the past and enjoyed it
- I've offered to buy her a bike for us to spend quality time together riding (I'm a competitive cyclist) but she declined
- She knows I'm very into exercise and that I would be willing to support her exercise goals
My plan:
- Encourage us to eat healthily when together
- Schedule one gym day a week for us to train together at her gym
- Set New Year goals for each of us and encourage her to have a fitness one (I'm a believer in Scott Adams' "goals are for losers, systems are for winners", so maybe I'll approach the system way with her)
- She's mentioned a TikTok person has a fitness program that she'd be interested in, but I think it may be too on the nose and she'd take it the wrong way
Any other advice or ideas that have worked for you all, man or woman?
Have you considered asking an LLM? I bet they would give great ideas, plus you can personalize it by providing extra info.
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