Blueberry
2d ago
10 year old YT comment: “The commercial doesn't show the wife banging someone on the side”
Blueberry
4d ago
where you don't know if Mary Murphy is Mrs. Murphy or Miss Murphy when you're writing an official letter, so a neutral term avoids giving offence
I can see how this is annoying.
Blueberry
4d ago
See my sibling comment.
Wikipedia is difficult in these topics as there are homophobic people wanting to slam dunk on the outgroup and homophilic sweeping inconvenient truths under the carpet.
Blueberry
4d ago
Does (or did) Mrs have more status? If yes it should have survived and Miss would have been eliminated? The beauty contests are “Miss Universe/World” and I can see older women wanting longer the young/sexy status of their youth and being called Ms.
I looked years ago into the studies, but the data is pretty bad. Alcoholism is also the main driver, so I would say there is a big class difference which can be more important. A below average working class couple who binge drink will use violence as conflict resolution more often, regardless if they are homo or hetero.
And while Gay men report lower rates of domestic abuse, there are many kitchen-psychology explanations for that:
- Does “Mutual assured destruction” lower the value of violence? Is there a difference between twinks and bears?
- Or do Gay men have non-jealous/non-monogamous and chill relationship norms which lowers conflict potential?
- Or as men dislike seeing themselves as “victimized” and abused do gay domestic abuse victims just suffer in silence?
See here for a discussion: https://old.reddit.com/r/AskGayMen/comments/1dfkn7z/gay_men_in_relationships_have_the_lowest_rates_of/
Anecdotally, I’ve known many gay men who were and are in abusive relationships, especially in relationships with large age gaps. I find that in a lot of relationships involving a young man and older man, the younger man is often physically, emotionally, sexually, and/or financially abused. It happens far more frequently than anyone would like to admit.
And in lesbian relationships higher rate of reporting could be because butch women internalized toxic masculinity. Or the violence rate could be higher but less dangerous and more low key (like disrespecting shoving, instead of beating up into the hospital). Or is it just an artifact of self reporting and women “exaggerating” small slights?
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6113571/#B108
Moscati (2016) ..” The sample comprised 102 lesbian women, mostly Italian (88.2%). Participants answered a questionnaire containing 29 multiple-choice questions. In over one case out of five (20.6% of the total), the interviewee admitted to be afraid of her partner coming back home. Further, 41.2% of women occasionally hid something from their partners because they were afraid of their reactions. In addition, 14.7% of lesbian women declared that they were always afraid of their partners. Almost half of the interviewees identified the damage resulting from a couple fight as psychological; physical damage was reported by 5.9% of the interviewees (Arcilesbica, 2011).
Imagine a fifth of all relationships of your friends being build on fear! These numbers are so high though that I am sceptical.
rather than debating the videos
I am not, give me that angles!
First we have this home surveillance with narration by CNNs Anderson Cooper. It lacks pixels though nd there is a tree in the way:
https://x.com/TheMaineWonk/status/2009506563732676847
Most frustrating is this new film by a neighbour: It has the clearest view and cuts at the exact important moment! Right wingers are retweeting it as it shows Ms Good being obnoxiously honking, but I wonder if it was leaked to them and why it was cut. If it would show the Ice officer only lightly (harmlessly? calculated by him?) being touched by the corner of the car the optics would be bad.
Blueberry
5d ago
The best action would probably jumping on the hood, or getting the center of gravity high enough the car knocks you over instead of under. This is such a split second decision though. Shooting has high variance, maybe it only provides revenge.
Take the former German Democratic (!) Republic (!), for example. Sure, they had elections. Perhaps sometimes the vote even decided which SED candidate would get elected.
Offtopic:
“Elections” in the GDR are very strange as they weren’t even sham elections. We imagine the failure mode of a democratic banana republic were a tyrant/regime keeps power through election fraud or controlled opposition, but in communist countries there was/is no opposition.
Instead communist Germany had a “unity list” as an election ballot which looked like this:
https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/7/74/Stimmzettel_Volkskammerwahl_1950_%28M_143%29.jpg
You notice the fundamental element missing: any kind of choice. There is not even a field for yes/no!
You could technically disagree, but for that you had to strike out the whole list with a pen. You could do that in secret by going into the polling booth, but of course using the booth makes you suspicious as everyone else just folded the ballot and put it directly into the ballot box. That is how you get 99% election results.
Nominally only a quarter of the “parliament” were candidates from the ruling SED, the other pre-selected members were from “democratic parties” and mass organizations to fake a multiparty system. But parliaments role was simply to confirm unanimously the decisions of the SED central committee.
My understanding is that this was the usual role of parliament in socialist/communist countries, though I don’t know how this worked in practice with speeches and committee work. Surely there were some contrarians slipping through the system? In communist China there are wisely no elections (I think it disillusioned Eastern Germans more that their elections were visibly pointless busy work), but the Chinese People Congress is similarly staffed with two thirds CCP members and one third by members of “eight allowed minor democratic parties“.
Blueberry
6d ago
why would they taunt and provoke them so aggressively
I think because they are filming the interaction and a) they get away with bravely poking the bear as the opponent doesn’t want to filmed while doing something bad or b) the opponent will be triggered does something film-worthy.
Blueberry
7d ago
It is exhausting that “sort by controversial” posts garner the most replies and I am not sure LiberalRetvrn is not trolling. So I want to say I agree with your take and both can be true: She sadly misjudged the situation and acted careless and the officer was trigger happy.
Blueberry
7d ago
Watch the video again in 0.25x speed: She is grinning when she tries to drive away. I grant that this was a stressful/adrenaline situation, but not because she was scared but because this was an exciting adventure for her. She thought herself as a heroine in the coming Instagram story and was thrilled to try to escape.
Anyway, this is unimportant. But if you give her such a wide leeway in your theory of mind, I wonder why you don’t do that for the officer? You imagine she was scared shitless and in panic as a (in her mind) terrorist clad Trump thug stormed onto her, but your imagination stops short of the officer having an instinctive fight response when a (in his mind) crazy belligerent bitch hits him with her SUV?
Blueberry
7d ago
X comment: “Am I high or is that a giant T-Rex?!?”
And yes, there is a life sized T-Rex.
I don't see how someone can be "resisting arrest" unless they're aware they are being arrested.
I don’t understand your thinking here. If a cop would stop you and tell you to get out of your car, do you think you could just floor it and flee because they didn’t say you are under arrest?
All I saw was a guy in a mask jumping out of an unmarked vehicle and running toward her …. In that situation it seems reasonable to fear for one's life.
That may be reasonable if someone is startled and wondering if brazilian street gangsters are carjacking them, but it is not what is happening in the video. She, her partner and the bystanders know exactly who the ICE officers are and she is smiling condescendingly and cracking jokes at them. There is neither panic nor fear, just smugness and derision. She is not fleeing out of panic, but because she is flippantly taking it as a game and not taking the situation serious.
Blueberry
7d ago
MarginalRevolution quotes from a Politico article with the only comment “sentences to ponder”:
“France will delay this year’s Group of 7 summit to avoid a conflict with the mixed martial arts event planned at the White House on Donald Trump’s birthday.”
So unexpected I had to laugh out loud.
Blueberry
7d ago
6 billion is a rounding error in the defense budget, so they could go even higher. 100K is not life changing money though as Greenlands median incomes are rather high.
Blueberry
9d ago
but this seems to amount to “Just let people flee.”
Why not though? They have the cars license plate and can make an arrest later.
Blueberry
16d ago
#2 is the dream though, every second RomCom has the plot of a desired guy being tamed.
Blueberry
18d ago
Also the kids and their relationship with each other.
If the kids are told: Imagine growing up knowing your dad is consciously not in your life and instead just an aquaintance, because he truly loves only your half siblings. Conversely knowing your dad has somewhere another child which he is caring for … what example does that set?
If the kids are not told: High chance they will find out anyway (ancestry dna tests) later in life about the half sibling.
Disclaimer: I dont have experience with patchwork families, maybe it works.
Blueberry
19d ago
First the viral book-tok hit „A little life“. There are good ling rants about it on reddit:
https://old.reddit.com/r/books/comments/g7ctg9/why_a_little_life_is_not_worth_reading
A girl I’m subscribed to made a half hour-long video about it. I saw Antoni from Queer Eye wear t-shirts with the characters’ names on them on the show. … A Little Life has been on my mind every single day for over two weeks now. At first, this was because I was in the middle of the story and was immersed in what was going on, anticipating where it would go. Then, it was because I’d finished it and was consumed by how devastating it was. Now, it’s because I’m genuinely angry that I let myself get so emotionally invested in a book that is in actuality terrible in every sense of the word.
Spoiler: This bestseller is practically emotional torture porn about a gay friend group and the gay protagonist who is sexually exploited (of course as a child also by monks) and how he collects traumatic experiences until he suffers so much that he can’t bear it anymore and suicides himself. I am terrible unfair here, but sometimes I think women have a strangely dark place in them and like to read about fucked up stuff (also why true crime podcasts are predominantly consumed by women). Bonus point: All books by the female author are about suffering homosexual men which weirds me out as a strange kink.
Then there is a fiction book with the plot that all women one day lay down on Earth (planking) in a silent strike instead of working in underpaid jobs / doing unpaid care work.
A book about a grand story of an immigrant family and the unwelcoming discriminating experiences they make over the decades in the host country full of Nazis. Though that was a little bit a submarine: The true theme was how the parents impose their backward rural-muslim culture on their kids which fucks them up. in the end an unknown trans kid which was adopted away shows up.
Then there is a non-fiction book about how in current times one can’t just live privately anymore, but must be personally involved politically against the new far right in europe.
Was it a phase? How did she turn out?
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