Glassnoser
11mo ago
Why not allow people to trade it away?
Glassnoser
11mo ago
It would only be enforceable if there weren't a significant quantity of tradeable goods that you could get from the government through this system.
Glassnoser
11mo ago
I don't understand the inequality issue. Wouldn't everyone get the same amount of money?
I think it's very hard to judge online advice, much of which is terrible, until you have some experience. There are all kinds of plausible sounding theories that get promulgated online, many of which will turn out to be true and many of which will turn out to be very wrong. Talking to people you know is better than talking to the highly selected group that you would find anywhere on the internet. But nothing beats experience.
Experience also builds confidence and skill. You can't eliminate all risk of being called a creep, but you can minimize it by gradually escalating and maintaining plausible deniability (e.g. you ask to hang out, then you get her alone, then you move in slowly for a kiss and if she responds positively with her body language, you kiss her). If you're like me and you are very nervous about making any kind of move or going on a date, practice really makes a huge difference.
Ease of success on dating sites varies wildly by person and by dating site, but I find I need to swipe on at least a few hundred profiles to get a date. I find Bumble and Hinge much easier to get dates on than Tinder. When I was single and seriously trying to date online, I probably spent a few minutes each day swiping, and maybe that much time talking to a promising match when I had one.
I've been looking for dating advice recently, but everything seems contradictory. You're supposed to treat all people equally regardless of gender (which is great!), but at the same time you're supposed to conform to gender stereotypes and you should expect that most women will do the same. People tell me it sucks and it's not fair, but I'm the man and that means I have to initiate contact and get rejected a lot. They also tell me to be persistent but in the same breath they tell me not to be too persistent and it's not clear where to draw the line.
Every woman is different, but I would say most like to be treated like a woman at least if you're on a date. Treating women the same as anyone else is probably bad advice. For example, I don't think you can go wrong with paying for your date, even if she says she doesn't like it when men do that.
I haven't figured out if being persistent is good or not. It has never worked for me, but I've seen it work for others.
They tell me to be authentic but they also tell me to "fake it till you make it" and act like I'm a cool guy who dates people all the time. They tell me to express my feelings but they also tell me that "women can smell fear" so I should act confident even if I don't feel confident.
I think you should try to be confident, but women can probably tell if you're faking it and they don't like dishonesty. Maybe focus on having things to be confident about. Of all the things I've tried to do to get women to like me, the things that seemed to work the most were things that had nothing to do with women but involved making me actually more desirable, like being talented at something. I've seen the way women change how they act towards me in real time as they saw that I could play the piano well or heard me talk expertly on some subject. So I would just focus on actually being impressive. Faking it probably won't work because even if they like you at first, that can change later when they get to know you better.
People tell me that women like it when you express interest in them, but also they think it's creepy.
They like it when men they're interested in are interested in them. They don't like it when men they're not interested in are interested in them. I wouldn't worry about the latter group because you never had a chance anyway. Just show interest in women and see if they respond positively.
People tell me I must never express interest in a girl at her place of work, but the only relationship I had in the last 10 years began with that exact scenario, and the girl was flattered!
There is a trade-off. It's probably better for your career to not hit on women at work, but it's definitely not good for your love life. If you've only had one relationship in the last ten years, it's probably worth it to hit on women at work. Personally, I think that it's crazy to completely rule out the place where you spend most of your waking hours as a place to meet women. It used to be a very common way to meet members of the opposite sex. My parents and grandparents all met at work.
But if I'm very attracted and I act like I'm only mildly attracted, doesn't that create a culture of deception within the relationship??
Sort of, but most people know people act less interested than they really are (or sometimes the opposite). Is it deception to hold your cards close to your chest or is it just expected that you act in your best interest? Relationships aren't all about acting altruistically.
A general point I'll make is that most of these problems you've brought up are not easily solved and you should just go out and try things. There are a lot of trade-offs and you're never going to come up with a theory that lets you know what the right move to make is all the time. You'll probably make some dumb mistakes regardless.
Glassnoser
11mo ago
The upside to this is that the costs of failure are typically pretty small: the people you meet are people you will never see again
I actually ran into two people I matched and talked to on dating apps after being on them for less than a year and I don't go out much.
Glassnoser
11mo ago
I didn't start dating until 26. I'm now 33 so I have some experience and have learned a lot, much of it the hard way. I find it's hard to recognize good advice when in the position of needing it, so I just want to say that this is all excellent advice, and one of the things that makes it good is it offers explanations and reasons to trust it over competing ideas that are out there (e.g. Holywood).
I grew up a bit sheltered and rarely talked about dating with the few friends I had. Starting around 23, I sought advice online and while some of it is good, most of it I now know is terrible.
It looks like you won't be going to the parts I went to, other than Athens, in which I only spent a day. I've also been to Mykonos and Santorini, which are filled with tourists which you said you want to avoid. But my impression is that the economy thrives on tourism, so I don't know how it easy it is to avoid tourists completely. The advantage of this though, is that unlike Italy, which is similar in many ways, most people there seem to speak English.
A Greek Uber driver who goes back every summer told me each island is very different from the rest. Mykonos is boring in my opinion unless you like to dance at clubs. It's known for as a place for partying. Santorini, which is popular with couples, is stunning. Oia, which a very beatiful city on a cliff, was packed with tourists, and that was in May. I think it gets a lot busier in the summer. I've also heard good things about Naxos.
Athens was filthy. Almost every building is completely covered in bad graffiti up to a certain height. The ground is very dirty. Everyone says to avoid it. It does have some cool ruins though and a few old buildings. In the more touristy areas of Athens everything is overpriced and there are Africans aggressively trying to sell bracelets on the street. But it's easy to find areas without many tourists. It's a huge city. Most of it is ugly and gross though.
It's definitely one of the more interesting countries I've been to and I would love to go back and explore more. For example, on those two islands, particularly Mykonos, there were a lot of vehicles that had clearly been abandoned for a very long time. And again, just an astouding amount of graffiti in certain areas. It's obviously a somewhat dysfunctional country. Every part I went to was very different from the other parts though, and my impression is that there were a lot more things to do there.
One tip: Google Maps isn't very accurate in Greece.
I don't think there's anything at all wrong with what she did. If they really needed the bike, they could have paid for it, including paying her to give up the bike she rightfully rented. They were deliberately circumventing the intention of the free period limit - why is there any free period at all by the way? - so I don't see why they should feel entitled to the bikes. They're trying to do something the system is clearly designed to not allow them to do.
I don't think we need to play sympathy games to figure out who deserves the bike more based on pregnancy status, sex, age, race, tiredness, or who got there first. We have a system for allocating the bikes and she followed that system to get the bike over someone who was trying to exploit the system to get something for free. We also have an even older and better established system for getting something that legally belongs to someone else. It's called trade. You can pay for something with money.
I agree that the narrative that they ganged up on her to take a bike that was already in her possession is false, but she is still completely in the right.
Glassnoser
11mo ago
So why were the energy future markets so wrong? Is it hard to short that market, is the market not efficient for some other reason, or were we actually just very lucky? Is that luck just that we're more adaptable than we thought?
Glassnoser
11mo ago
He claimed the spelling mistakes were deliberate at one point. I'm not sure if he was joking.
Like you, I discovered this film by accident. And I'm not just Canadian but have an electrical engineering degree. My friends wanted to see The Machine or Guardians of the Galaxy, and not looking forward much to these, I found this as the top rated alternative. I am pretty picky when it comes to movies but I thought this one was very good.
For some reason, there seems to have been a general decline in the telecommunications industry in Canada. It's not just Research In Motion. There was also Nortel. I'm not sure what the reason is, but it seems to be difficult for any industry to thrive in Canada which is
EDIT: forgot to complete the comment.
... which is neither removing natural resources from the ground nor a protected industry like banks, airliners, and telecommunications service providers.
Glassnoser
11mo ago
Our economy should function like an extension of the US market, but it doesn't. There are serious barriers that prevent our economy from fully integrating with the US. It seems to become much harder to do anything once you cross the border. Part of this is certainly the fault of the US government, but much of it is our fault too.
Glassnoser
11mo ago
Do Reddit mods actually improve Reddit much? My impression is that the best subreddits are very lightly moderated and what mods spend most of their efforts on is exerting influence in various ways that make them feel important but don't actually benefit anyone but themselves. If they spend more time than I think removing spam, then I could be convinced otherwise, but that doesn't seem to be what they mostly do.
Glassnoser
11mo ago
Another thing is nipping negative shit in the bud before it becomes a problem
Can you elaborate on this?
Glassnoser
11mo ago
I agree, but it's rare.
Glassnoser
11mo ago
I had /r/themotte in mind as a definite exception, but as a user who has only ever moderated a tiny subreddit, the spam is not apparent to me, so I mostly just see moderators removing interesting comments.
What I don't think is well appreciated by some, either in certain bubbles or outside Canada, is that, while the protest was very controversial, its support was quite broad. This was not like some fringe far-right or populist movement that all respectable people were against. Throughout the pandemic, a lot of people across the political spectrum thought the Covid restrictions had gone too far, but they tended to be quiet about it. Not all of these people supported the trucker protest, but a lot of them quietly did. I know some pretty progressive people who weren't too vocal about it, but they would say things like "enough is enough, what do they expect people to do?". I know well-respected successful progressive professionals who donated to it. There was a very widespread feeling, from people who wouldn't ordinarily support something like this, that you can only push people so far and that something had to give. Canadians tend to be very trusting of and deferential to their government, but I witnessed a lot of that trust get burned up by its handling of the pandemic.
I don't know if I agree that the protest was successful though. My impression is that the covid restrictions were reversed the moment the polls showed a majority were against them. I followed the pandemic policies pretty closely for the first two years and it seemed like the politicians, especially Trudeau, were just doing whatever the polls said was popular.
Glassnoser
10mo ago
I know several normies that supported the truckers, which is not something I have witnessed for any other remotely radical political movement.
Glassnoser
10mo ago
Robin Hanson has a theory to explain this. https://www.overcomingbias.com/p/our-alien-stalkers
Glassnoser
10mo ago
I take it you haven't heard of pellet stoves.
We're at an unusual point in our history because of having only recently industrialized and so we haven't yet adapted yet to our enormous wealth. Given enough time, we would certainly return to a state in which we exploit every available energy source.
Glassnoser
10mo ago
I'm confused. I must be missing something. They're charging for the use of the API and you say that Christian Selig gets more than that. So how is it a problem for him? Why can't he just pay the fee?
Glassnoser
10mo ago
But why not just land on the White House lawn, meet with our leaders, and explain their agenda? Because once they start talking to us, we will have a lot of questions. Such as on their nature, practices, history, and future plans. And many of us would surely hate some of their answers. They are complete aliens after all, and we are often offended by humans from slightly different cultures. They reasonably guess that we are just not as open-minded as we like to think.
Sure, maybe if they understood us really well they could just say “no comment” when a discussion got near something likely to offend us. But we’d then reasonably infer that they were hiding bad news near there, make a guess at what it is, and get somewhat offended at that. Far simpler and more robust to not talk at all, except in dire emergencies.
Does this not answer that criticism?
Glassnoser
10mo ago
I'm out of the loop. Where can I find the best explanation of what is going on and the what the argument is for why Reddit shouldn't be doing this?
Glassnoser
10mo ago
Really? Maybe this is specific to Canada, but I find the opposite. Almost all city-specific subreddits are very left-wing.
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