KingOfTheBailey
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KingOfTheBailey
3d ago
https://www.economist.com/europe/2021/12/18/why-have-danes-turned-against-immigration (archive) might reference the study GP is talking about? Certainly, the graph of "Denmark, average net contribution to public finances, by age" (broken down by ethnicity) gets posted a fair bit on RW twitter.
It's so bizarre. Many Golden Age web forums had a lifecycle involving the creation of an off-topic board, then the politics (containment thread/containment subforum/topic ban) to try and keep things from getting out of hand, then the drama built and built until it dominated the whole thing or it collapsed.
But here we've had the reverse. We were the containment thread, which was then jettisoned into its own /r/, then escaped onto its own site, which has made room for more good "off-topic" discussion to grow.
KingOfTheBailey
7d ago
Not parents, but a friend introduced me to his genius. The Vatican Rag would have been scandalous when it came out but it was also packed with great lyrics and incredible rhymes. But I will always have twin soft spots for Poisoning Pigeons in the Park and Lobachevsky.
KingOfTheBailey
8d ago
"Dangerous professional" is a term popularized by Patrick Mackenzie (@patio11 on X): https://x.com/patio11/status/1162561822248992768 about a particular mode of communication (usually written, because Dangerous Professionals make paper trails, but sometimes verbal):
Memetically, being a Dangerous Professional means communicating in what might be a slightly adversarial context in a way which suggests that a bureaucracy take one’s concerns seriously and escalate them to someone empowered to resolve them swiftly.
The idea is to convey that one is not going to bluster at relatively powerless individual bureaucrats, but to credibly demonstrate that one is willing and able to keep good paper trails (e.g., keeps a log of how the issue evolves and uses tools like certified mail to corroborate the paper trail) and is familiar with bureaucratic norms and procedures (e.g.: "counting to 30 days and calmly escalating to a Regulator or Ombudsman" on day 31). Such a person will reliably cause problems for the institution as a whole if it doesn't get its act together.
X link goes to post #1 of a thread, https://www.kalzumeus.com/2017/09/09/identity-theft-credit-reports/#form-letters-and-the-inadvisability-thereof also has a good section on this.
KingOfTheBailey
9d ago
Without an explanation of why, this feels like outgroup booing. Do you mean because the structures that make such an existence become invisible, and then invisible oppression? Or because there needs to be a consciousness raising among the people who live there? Or because not everyone will be able to live there, and those who inherited it have unearned privilege? Or for some other reason?
KingOfTheBailey
10d ago
Individuals can do that; amorphous groups never can.
And in-between, specific groups can. This wasn't the group I was looking for, but in 2015 a group called Freedom To Marry shut itself down:
And, proving your point:
Instead of becoming “an organization that flails around and figures out what to do next,” he said he would help employees find work in other “good-guy causes” and make sure the group’s records were properly archived so that other social movements could study its methods.
KingOfTheBailey
10d ago
One silver lining to rising costs of things is that I'm seeing more and more shops explicitly showing their payment processing fees, and offering discounts for cash again.
KingOfTheBailey
13d ago
Doom in particular got people in trouble not only for being ridiculously addictive, but also because it used broadcast packets to run its multiplayer code. So a few people gaming could have a disproportionate impact on the entire office LAN.
KingOfTheBailey
13d ago
You might want to repost this in this week's thread, otherwise you might not get much discussion.
KingOfTheBailey
18d ago
The women are videotaping themselves ranting on TikTok about how they can't get out of "situationships" and into decent relationships.
KingOfTheBailey
19d ago
I thought I was the only one who felt this way.
KingOfTheBailey
23d ago
Sailors' tattoos were also earned e.g. a swallow meant you'd sailed 5000 miles. It wasn't all just covering yourself in random pictures.
KingOfTheBailey
23d ago
I managed to willpower my way to stop biting my nails after years and years of that, but
Congratulations, ceasing nail-biting is very difficult. This makes me think you have a better shot at fixing your diet than a random obese person off the street, since you've already achieved one lifestyle change from willpower alone. I hope that you have greater success now that you have chemical assistance. Good luck.
KingOfTheBailey
24d ago
I can only assume that his mind latched onto the most extreme "solution" to the extreme "problem" with which he diagnosed himself.
"something happens to move us to the next scene"
This link is broken, but I'm reminded of the way Dude, Where's My Car? literally yanks the main characters off the street multiple times to get them to the next scene. It depresses me to think that mainstream modern movies are now at the level of writing that powered a (classic) intentionally dumb comedy.
KingOfTheBailey
25d ago
A question on Manifold was resolved in the negative, and thankfully not because he died in an anonymous patch of the Alaskan wilderness:
He says he's no longer actively planning any preparations, so I think I'll go ahead and resolve this NO. But he says he's still "kinda thinking" about doing it next winter, so I might make a new market then if anything ends up coming to fruition.
KingOfTheBailey
26d ago
I wound down my Hinge account because I stumbled into a promising relationship with a girl I knew IRL, but this rings true for me. At the time I wrapped things up, I was getting enough dates with women that I was excited to meet without being overwhelmed by the volume, and had to disappoint several decent-sounding women before I deleted.
Seconding the recommendation to use positive, information-dense prompts. The poll option on your profile is particularly good for this, as it lets you put three positive aspects of yourself into a single widget.
On messaging: here are some decent templates. https://killyourinnerloser.com/tinder-guide-3/#chapter-1-templates
I like these because they push inexorably towards a date, but I had more success not following them than forcing the conversation back onto those rails. Unlike the author of that series, I was looking for an LTR, not to get laid as frequently as possible. But the permission to always move towards a date (if not directly), and to be a little bit sexual and direct, was very useful in setting my intentions on the platform.
Also, Hinge has capped the number of open conversations on a user's account. This is a good thing, as it forces both men and women to either get to the point and arrange a date, or to unmatch and move on.
On getting matched from your likes: I never could tell if Hinge used a stack or a queue for incoming matches. It might show the newest incoming likes first and then maintain a queue after that or something, I dunno. But it often happened that I would get a slow rise in matches coming in a few weeks after I started, usually around the time I began to despair. Have patience.
OP should also think about approaching women in real life. A lot of them complain on the apps that they only have accounts because nobody talks IRL any more.
It's like this because you're in one of the rare online venues where thoroughness is rewarded, and the parent parent parent culture of LessWrong seeded ours with norms around writing massive walls of text.
Most of GP's advice is about not shooting yourself in the foot. How not to get your likes ignored. How not to have a conversation fizzle out. etc. Get to the date and enjoy spending time with women, even if they're not the women you'll end up dating long-term or marrying.
Or you could just attempt The Hock, I guess?
KingOfTheBailey
2mo ago
It turned out that gender woo was way more memetically contagious than (it appeared|its advocates thought|its advocates were willing to say). I think poly will prove to be as contagious or worse; we just haven't seen the floodgates from legal recognition yet so it's still "a weird SF/alt-lifestyle thing". Poly requires new people to be poly with, once the people you were seeing have moved on, and that means evangelizing to normies. And if you believe that most people are not capable of practicing poly without causing xkcd#592, this boils down to going up to people and saying, "hey, have you tried this sweet new infohazard?"
I was once briefly involved with an attractive ENM girl who only wanted something casual, and while that might sound the start of a salacious story that'll makes the reader say "tfw", it was the most stifling period in my dating life. Anyone else I wanted to see, I would have to have the "poly conversation" with, and I couldn't bring myself to do that. It just felt too much like peddling bad memes to decent women, and after I missed out on a couple of relationships with decent girls that way, I decided it was better to be single than help worsen the modern dating world.
And once I broke things off, it turned out that even a relationship that casual couldn't go back to being a friendship. Either she was only keen to hang out as friends because of the possibility of adding a sexual element to the friendship, or breaking things off hurt too much to stay friends. Whichever was true, poly opened a branch of the decision tree which only had bad outcomes.
KingOfTheBailey
3mo ago
Pretty much everywhere I go, modern housing is appalling. Buildings thrown together; decorative panels falling off new-built apartments; concrete slabs rush-poured and not given proper time to cure; residential towers that catch fire or crack so badly they become uninhabitable; just enough lighting that you can photograph it for a real estate listing, but not enough to actually live in it; cupboards shallower than the width of a single mug; I could go on. It is not clear to me that we know how to build things any more.
KingOfTheBailey
4mo ago
You don't happen to have a torrent of these, or the time to chuck them up on MEGA or whatever, do you?
KingOfTheBailey
4mo ago
What is "raising right", if not setting the incentives around a developing youth so that he grows up, instead of out?
(Wordplay aside, it's on the parent to set those incentives, not the state.)
KingOfTheBailey
4mo ago
It was technically amazing, the custom maps scene was probably where custom maps peaked (the success of DotA inspired at least three spin-off games, and probably put dollar signs in Blizzard's eyes for the SC2 arcade), and I never played the native RTS in serious multiplayer but it seemed good.
But I also think the campaign was pretty... ehhh, and the expansion campaign was similar. Not like Wings of Liberty (which has great mission design and structure, but bad writing) or the SC1 campaigns (which still have "Blizzard writing" but are a lot better, and discussed upthread).
The closest I get to this world is the Manowar cover of Nessun Dorma and I never knew what it meant, so thank you very much for writing all of this out. (For Manowar, a man sitting up at night, having put it all on the line, and ending in a cry of victory is actually really thematically appropriate. It was also apparently recorded as a tribute to the singer's late mother but was sometimes performed live for the band's Italian fans.)
I don't know if opera is for me, but I certainly respect the hell out of the performances in it. How much of this is comprehensible if you just turn up to a performance, or is it one of those things where everyone already knows the pieces and the stories?
P.S.: I actually meant I thought this would be a great fit for a standalone thread; the stories from the wider world are IMHO the best part of this forum.
I thought that was true for every generation, and pension schemes made up for it in population growth.
The text does says that Western immigrants are net contributors:
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