Attraction is about reproduction. If you want your child to be like you, to psychologically, phenomenologically experience the world as you do, to live again in them, it's important that their genetic makeup be very close to your own and this means mating with someone relatively closely-related
I concur with this, but on a deep instinctual level. On an intellectual level, I'd love to be attracted to a wide range of women, as that would grant me a lot more options in practice. But I instinctively practice assortative mating in a very fine-grained way. I am only attracted to women that have a body type and facial features similar to mine.
This has always made looking for a partner a needle-in-a-haystack problem for me, as they have been rare in all the places I've lived (but common in certain countries). It has also many times made it difficult for me to explain that I am straight while not being attracted to even model-tier women that are not my type.
The silver lining is that this preference seems to be mutual. Almost every time I met women that I was attracted to, the chemistry was instant and reciprocal, up to locking eyes as strangers on the street and striking a conversation.
You implied that you follow the related scientific literature. Could you please point me towards anything that would explain the mechanisms behind this instinctual preference, on a genetic or neurological level?
I'm also curious about its prevalence, as most people seem to be attracted to a much wider range of partners.
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I concur with this, but on a deep instinctual level. On an intellectual level, I'd love to be attracted to a wide range of women, as that would grant me a lot more options in practice. But I instinctively practice assortative mating in a very fine-grained way. I am only attracted to women that have a body type and facial features similar to mine.
This has always made looking for a partner a needle-in-a-haystack problem for me, as they have been rare in all the places I've lived (but common in certain countries). It has also many times made it difficult for me to explain that I am straight while not being attracted to even model-tier women that are not my type.
The silver lining is that this preference seems to be mutual. Almost every time I met women that I was attracted to, the chemistry was instant and reciprocal, up to locking eyes as strangers on the street and striking a conversation.
You implied that you follow the related scientific literature. Could you please point me towards anything that would explain the mechanisms behind this instinctual preference, on a genetic or neurological level?
I'm also curious about its prevalence, as most people seem to be attracted to a much wider range of partners.
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