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Married to a tomboy, so I have that going for me, which is nice.


				
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Married to a tomboy, so I have that going for me, which is nice.



				

				

				

				

				

					

					

					
					
					

					
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				Small-Scale Question Sunday for July 19, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


Sure, the pitcher is is in direct opposition to the batter, but how does the pitcher affect the fielders?




By choosing his pitches to the batter in an attempt to get the batter to hit in such a way that it's easier to field or will lead to a double play.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for July 19, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


I recall some of my elders' generation reporting similar feelings, after the statement "my classmate brought a gun to school" no longer primarily implied "I want to go hunting after class too!" Like, even if this is a change that needs to be made for safety's sake, there's definitely something being lost along the way.




There was absolutely something lost along the way. Imagine* living in a place where one could have a gun rack in a pickup's back window with a rifle in it parked at the high school. Not only was no one concerned about violence at the school, it was so safe that no one would break into the truck to steal the rifle.


*I don't have to imagine it, I did live in and attend HS in such a place. Only the 90s, and yet a totally foreign country now.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for July 19, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
It's a rural area. Loose dogs with bad attitudes running around the countryside are a Thing.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for July 19, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


Mrs. FiveHour was once deeply embarrassed when the courthouse security took my leatherman off me at the metal detector when she asked me to come in and hang a picture for her.




In urban courthouses in my state, trying to bring a gun into a courthouse will get it confiscated and the bearer will likely be charged criminally. In my rural area, they tell the person to take it back to their car. It's no exaggeration to say everyone here carries, and they carry so often they forget they're carrying.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for July 19, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
The Shooting Party by Isabel Colegate. The kind of shit (late Victorian, Edwardian, or interwar England) I want injected straight into my veins. The author was born in 1931, so at best she heard about the era from her parents and other members of the prior generation, but still well-written and captivating. I have a few of her works lined up and I'm greatly looking forward to them.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for July 19, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


Why did this exception make it through the Fair Housing Act but not others?




Other categories are protected from discrimination by the 14th amendment and interpretations thereof. Age isn't one of those protected classes, so Congress was able to carve out the exception where it wouldn't be able to do so for religion. Historically AARP had some good lobbying muscle, which is how I imagine Congress was persuaded to create the 55+ exception.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for July 19, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
Proof I'm on the way to the littlest league.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for July 19, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


I was considering it for dog defense, mostly, but apparently it's legally questionable to carry one and actually ever use it in a self-defense scenario.




I've pondered getting one of those novelty 12" baseball bats to carry when I'm running as a dog deterrent. So far, the aggressive dogs who have come after me have been deterred by the rocks I've picked up (amazing how even obnoxious dogs recognize what it means when a human bends down to grab a rock), but there is bound to be one eventually that isn't deterred by that.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for July 19, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


If I was hosting a party or barbecue and someone brought a knife with them




How big of a knife are you envisioning here? This is my daily carry and no one I know would blink at me taking it out during a bbq to cut open a stubborn package (although I do live in a small town in a rural area of a red state). It's not as if I'm hauling around my grandfather's WW2 Kbar knife (if only I were that based).


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Friday Fun Thread for July 17, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
I probably remember more about the South Park episode parodying Inception than I do the movie itself.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Friday Fun Thread for July 17, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
It used the word "transsexual?" Is that word more common over there? It's almost entirely been replaced by transgender here, so the use of transsexual here would make me suspect a troll posted it, not someone part of the parade.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of July 13, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


But America is still land of opportunity, just follow teachings of the great guru Shagbark the Hobo King, and you too can find true frugal wife happy to live in shack and eat roadkill.




I enjoy occasionally reading something by Shagbark because he is great at doing just what he did in that tweet: starting with a generally good point (many women are attracted to a man who has a vision of some kind and mission in life) and then taking it in a totally insane direction. "You should live where costs are low... so move to wasteland upstate New York, eat roadkill, and get by on $10k per year!" Etc.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of July 13, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


Before taxes!




Putting aside the female numbers (which confirm my biases and thus are obviously correct), how does that even work for the male numbers? 86% before taxes would still seem to be over 100% once taxes are included.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of July 13, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


I guess maybe this is another thing where my background influences what I've seen, but as far as I can tell I've never been on a date with a woman who had this kind of lifestyle.




Well-traveled girlboss who has a family subsidizing her lifestyle: I went on first dates with two. I've worked with another two (I'm a government lawyer, so I'm hardly in a high-earning demographic).


I'd have to ask him for exact numbers, but my brother went on first dates with at least 6 women like this. More than one was very blunt up front that saving for a family was a man's job (and she had saved nothing to that point), and being in a relationship meant he would need to make sure she was kept in the lifestyle she wanted. These were not women from wealthy families, but much of their parents' money seemed to be spent subsidizing their (usually only) daughter.


Just like with trust funders, these "soft" trust funders are more numerous than you might expect.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of July 13, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


Trad women don’t want to date men who express controlling-abuse red flags, doing so puts them in a worse position.




Do you know a large number of trad women? You've polled them on beliefs?


I can't say I know any, so me saying what they want when dating would be pure speculation. I certainly know that liberal PMC women are repelled by even a hint of what they perceive to be "trad" thought, but that tells me nothing about a more traditional woman who regularly attends church.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of July 13, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


modern US people are raised with attitude of temporarily embarrassed princes and princessess who feel any hint they should count money and consider the costs as mortal insult to their noble status and honor.




Sadly true. There was some significant reee-ing in the lastest doordash discourse on twitter (which kicked off with some guy saying you shouldn't be eating lunch out every day when you're making 70k in the US) with too many taking the position that taking a lunch to work was living worse than a medieval peasant.


I find the guy's point regarding eating out to be so trivially correct as to be unobjectionable, which proves I'm old and out of touch.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of July 13, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


I realized a while back that a lot of women were raised in McMansions with parents who basically paid for everything, from cars to clothes to fancy knick knacks, and of course university education, from the time she could walk.




If only such support ended at HS or college. One occasionally meets a girlboss in their 30s who spends every dime on travel and clothing and eating out because her parents are still providing the apartment, car, and maybe even spending money. And she expects the future husband to be able to provide that level of living. Made for some entertaining first dates.


"Oh, I love Paris. I try to visit twice a year. How often do you travel abroad?"


"I've never left the US. My idea of travel is hiking and camping for 10 days without a shower."


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Wellness Wednesday for July 15, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
I'm not on the Chinese mystery powder train myself. I have doubts that most of these substances will pan out as people hope. However, I'm all in favor of bro science people using themselves as guinea pigs for my education and entertainment.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Wellness Wednesday for July 15, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


The rest of the peptides being sold on gray market (that aren't already FDA approved drugs available cheaper than pharma out of pocket/gatekept by insurance) are very unfounded.




There are some myostatin inhibitors, if validated, that sound like they are going to be crazy for muscle growth.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of July 13, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


But I'm acutely aware of the price of being single, if for no other reason than to help me calibrate how much I should 'compromise' to bring a new woman into my life.




I have to work to remain silent when some of my longtime married friends complain about money. Several couples I know have been married since law school (so 20 years now, sigh), they have been sharing rent/mortgage/expenses since then, they bought houses during the 2015-2020 3% interest/lower prices sweet spot, the ones working for governments got some loan forgiveness during the Biden jubilee, etc. They are $300k plus ahead of people who married later and bought houses later (to say nothing of being way ahead of chumps who were foolish enough to pay off student loans). The world's tiniest violin is still too large when they complain about money.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for July 12, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
Once again, modern tech has obviated working class job.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Wellness Wednesday for July 15, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


The Dark Tower had only two good characters (Gunslinger and Man in Black) across two and half good books in it before it just falls apart at the seams and descends into nonsense.




100% accurate. The first 3 books are King at his drunk, coked-out, manic energy finest (I think the 3rd one was the last book he wrote before going to rehab). They are insane in many fun ways. Nothing after that lives up to the first three.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for July 12, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
    

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    Congrats on the weight loss. I second another poster and encourage getting into lifting more. Not so much for dating as just feeling better overall.
    

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    You are taller than I expected based on some of your past dating posts. I assumed you were getting typical short guy treatment from the apps, but I would figure (wrongly, it seems) it wouldn't apply to someone who could plausibly claim 6'.
    

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    Your woes remind me of my brother's, although he had fewer flakes to deal with. He went on many dates and most were so terrible that I wish they had been recorded by hidden camera. He was making $$$ and living just outside a decent-sized city with a weak economy, so I figured that plus being in shape, 6', and handsome enough would work wonders. Not at all. Every PMC woman expected him to be a frequent world-traveler and outdoor sport enthusiast to an extreme level (how exactly all these women were affording their jetsetting outdoor lifestyles remains something of a mystery since they all had jobs paying far less than his), and the non-PMC women were unbelievable train wrecks. I don't know if it applies to Chicago, but some places are just have terrible dating scenes (or at least only terrible candidates download the apps).
    

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				Small-Scale Question Sunday for July 12, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
I think I recognize this plan. Does the manager also apply violence if the whale doesn't want to pay? And perhaps hold onto the woman's money so she doesn't spend it on foolish things?


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			
			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Wellness Wednesday for July 15, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
I get your position, but I do wish more people who were not raised with religion would talk about how they found their way to it. I posted a question about that as my first post here, but all the responses were from people raised in a religion who found their way back to it, which is a different matter.