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RoyGBivensAction

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Married to a tomboy, so I have that going for me, which is nice.


				
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Married to a tomboy, so I have that going for me, which is nice.



				

				

				

				

				

					

					

					
					
					

					
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				Culture War Roundup for the week of April 20, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


"we" then proceeded to win the world cup and then elect a libertarian.




From your n=1 sample, how has that changed, for better or worse, your daily life?


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for April 19, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
Back when I was drinking, Plymouth (regular or Navy Strength) was my go-to for a softer gin, and Junipero for a more forward one.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of April 20, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


I don't know that this is true. I used to do a fair amount of genealogy for work and large age gaps were pretty common in the old days. Even in my own family, my great aunt married a guy in 1931 (when she was 20) who was about 20 years older than her, and only a couple years younger than her parents.




Some of those age gaps I've noticed in my own genealogy research was a much older man marrying a 2nd wife after the first wife died (new wife then helps care for existing kids plus having some of her own with him). Not always, as your example shows, but trying to tease apart the particulars complicates it.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of April 20, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


In many cases there's not a huge, noticeable 'maturity' difference between a 21 year old woman and a 28 year old woman. One will just have a lot more 'baggage' than the other.




As a sage on twitter put it:




The reason women get upset about age gaps in relationships that they're not in is because they're worried men will notice there's no difference in dating a 35yo who never matured past 14 and dating a 21yo who never matured past 14




				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of April 20, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


I would have slighly more tuck for "Chinaman" being an ethnic slur,




I can only think of The Big Lebowski whenever I see that term now.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Friday Fun Thread for April 17, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


So, is there a series that has the final season that doesn't feel either rushed or drawn out, that finishes exactly how and when it should?




Have you already watched Twin Peaks? Between the original series, Fire Walk With Me, and The Return, it ended up finishing exactly how it should.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for April 19, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
Working on it now. It's a step up in writing quality from the first 3 in the anthology, but also an increase in the societal/race commentary.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Friday Fun Thread for April 17, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


You will probably never get a good tomato at a grocery store.




My grandparents were gardeners for 60+ years for this reason. My father is pushing 50 years of gardening for the same reason. Store-bought tomatoes are only useful for looks and are otherwise awful. Home-grown ones are a totally different vegetable (or fruit, whatever). The same applies to strawberries and a bunch of other produce.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Friday Fun Thread for April 17, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
Strange you mention Costco as having good ones. They're dreadful around me. Utterly taste-free and barely any texture, whereas ones I get from the grocery store are delicious enough to eat like an apple.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for April 19, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


Imagine Mrs. FiveHourMarathon calling all her nephews "chuds" because she thinks that it's a cute kid phrase like 6-7 or aura




Unintentionally accurate to call a group of rambunctious and kinda dumb (in the way all boys are kinda dumb once you have a pack of them) boys chuds.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for April 19, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
We're living in the post-Miami world, no doubt about it.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for April 19, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
Working my way through a collection of Harlem Detective novels by Chester Himes.


He does a superb job at capturing how the criminal class talks to each other and interacts with each other. The setting is black Harlem, but it could easily be my white and hispanic clients, too. Just endless jabbering that goes nowhere, trying to pull one over each other or the cops with "clever" blather, trying to hype themselves up, etc. Utterly transparent once you see the pattern and usually only works at fooling themselves or other criminals who are stupid/high.


Always interesting to read pre-70s crime fiction and see the guns mentioned (not that the authors are necessarily that accurate or know much about guns). Mostly revolvers like 38 specials or .32s, maybe the occasional .25 auto, but rarely a .45 or 9mm. Whereas now when my clients get caught with guns, 90% of the time it's a 9mm, with a .45 or .40 putting in an occasional appearance.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of April 13, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


Sure buddy, I'll get right on that. Deck 12 has some serious Starfleet Energy to it, it's an excellent choice. Dare I say, it's downright Chef's Kiss."




LLMs trained on the reddit corpus become redditors. I can't tell if this is the worst timeline, funniest one, or both.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of April 13, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
I believe in you. I see mid white guys hiking with EAFs, and if they can do it, you can, too.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Small-Scale Question Sunday for April 19, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
Do you drink alcohol? If so, how much and how often, and what's your age?


I'm mid 40s and I used to be a social drinker, but gave it up 2.5 years ago because the hangovers, even after 2 drinks, became atrocious. Even if I ate something, spread out the drinks, hydrated, etc. Of my greater social group, though, I'm the only one to give it up. I keep hearing about people drinking less, but no one I know among my age group has slowed down or given it up.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of April 13, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


The biggest difference I noticed is that nerdy white male/East Asian female was always an extremely common pairing in the Bay




You know where this pairing is amusingly common? Outdoors. I do lots of hiking and have to stifle my laughter every time I see yet another WMAF couple out hiking.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of April 13, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
I must be looking at them wrong. I've had too much experience with them and keep a beady eye on every one I encounter, but I've yet to kill one with a funny look.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Friday Fun Thread for April 17, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
For all the autists here, some Friday King Crimson:


    

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    The '81-'84 version actually did some music videos. Here's Heartbeat, a poppy little number that I quite like. The video is nothing special, but it's fascinating to see a music video for KC.
    

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    Here's Sleepless, another great song. An even worse video, though. The best version of that song is the extended version mixed by Tony Levin, the bassist for KC.
    

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    in 1982, among his KC and other work, Fripp did an album with Andy Summers from the Police called I Advance Masked. It's all guitars and guitar synths, and definitely worth a listen if you enjoy that kind of thing. The video for the title track is baffling and amazing. The deadpan looks that Summers and Fripp give each other and the camera while 6 Asian women dance around should not be missed. Although they're miming for the video, they appear to be mimicking their guitar parts closely. Fripp's crazy part starts around 2:35.
    

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Per a YT comment, this is the story behind the video:




VG: Actually, there is a bit of a story about the first video. Robert, didn't you make a facetious remark about what the first video needed which then came to pass?


RF: Yes, what happened was I was at World Headquarters in Wimbourne. Fripp World Headquarters. I was just off on a Crim tour, an endless King Crimson tour somewhere or another. I phoned up Andy and Andy said "We have to do a video, do you got any ideas?". I said "Yes, how about half a dozen oriental dancing girls?" with my tongue firmly planted in my cheek. And Andy said, "What a great idea". I went away on tour, came back, and phoned Andy up to see what was happening. And the first thing Andy said was "I've got the oriental dancing girls". Then, sure enough, I turn up in London to film the video and there they were. One complete with koto.




				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of April 13, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
I would be in favor of deporting every person, immigrant or citizen, who extols the virtues of their prior living place and condemns the new one. Perhaps deporting them to Liberia, but I'm open to ideas. If the new one is so bad and the old one is so great, then you need to go.


Of course, this would disproportionately effect former New Yorkers. If I never hear "this place [I moved to in an attempt to escape crime, taxes, noise, disorder, filth and a dozen other bad things] is a cultureless shithole, NYC was so great" again, it would be too soon.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of April 13, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


and he has life tenure as a judge of the supreme court,




That's Clarence Thomas, not Thomas Sowell.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Wellness Wednesday for April 15, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


But if I stick with this, am I going to end up on gear?




The answer is yes, and it's true for many things that fall into [this].


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of April 13, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


It's important to remember that this is a particular, peculiar subculture/mental illness being reported on. It gets a whole lot of attention, because many members of the media class are also afflicted with it. But it's not at all representative: we're being presented with a deeply warped carnival mirror style representation of reality. One that's optimized toward creating an emotional reaction and us-vs-them dynamic, which is ideal for engagement.




This reads as the latest update to the usual dismissal:


    

  1. It's just some kids on college campuses
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  2. okay, it's more than college kids, but it's just some weirdos on the internet
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  3. okay, it's more than college kids and internet weirdos, but it's an isolated subgroup getting too much attention
    4. 



It becomes less believable each time. The whole western world is the internet. There is no "non-internet" reality to return to (unless one is Amish, I suppose). Swathes of people are addicted to social media/tiktok/IG/whatever (and it's likely worse among women). The media class is afflicted, the chattering classes are afflicted, the PMC are afflicted, and the white collar workers are afflicted. Resentment-powered leftist identitarianism is everywhere. Being told "it's not representative" is false and borders on gaslighting.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of April 13, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					


how men still manage to end up homeless and without any material possessions after a divorce.




That's the extreme end of things, but the child support orders in some locations are beyond absurd (very state-dependent). Plenty of family court judges follow the "kids must live the mother unless she's an unstable, drug-addicted BPD psycho" rule regardless of what any written law says (they can always justify it as "best interests of the child," which is usually the controlling standard), so mother stays in the family home with kids, father must pay his share of the mortgage for that family home he's no longer living in, and then must also pay child support. Maybe even paying some spousal support/alimony depending on the state (less common than it used to be). Unless he's making a lot of money, the tiny apartment and barely getting by suddenly becomes reality.


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Wellness Wednesday for April 15, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
I wake up at an absurdly early hour, get my cold brew, and walk around a park near my house. It's roughly a mile. I do this daily and year-round except in pouring rain. I sip coffee while looking at the stars and, if the moon isn't too bright, the milky way. I saw a vivid shooting star this morning. I usually don't see more than one other person, if that (the other early bird lunatic in my neighborhood). I have a flashlight so I can spot troublesome wildlife in the really dark spots (stupid skunks). Aside from some great horned owls hooting away, it is usually quite silent. I get to savor my coffee while being the only person in the world. No one is bothering me to do something, I don't need to make small talk, I don't have to carry or look at my phone, and I don't have to get anything done. It's the best part of my day.


[the second-best part is my lifting or running, which follows this walk. Everything is unpleasantly downhill after that.]


				

				

						

							

								
							

						


						
					

				
			


			

	


			
			
				

			
		

	






		

			
			
				Culture War Roundup for the week of April 13, 2026
			
		

	

	

	

		
			

			

				

			

		

			


				

					
I drive 99% of the time and my wife has never offered commentary on my driving. On other people's driving, on the scenery, on a nearby bird, yes.


My parents have driving as a team sport. My mom will say "you've got green" if the light has been green for a moment and my stepdad hasn't hit the gas yet (probably because he was looking a bird), but it's a neutral tone and not a "you're doing it wrong" tone. Same for the "car coming" comments when they come to a stop sign and she looks to the right while he looks to the left. The latter is especially helpful at something like a T intersection when the sightlines are blocked and someone could come zooming along with very little advance warning.