Skulldrinker
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Skulldrinker
13hr ago
I've never understood how a second man helps in this situation; that's just another oppressor who might be a serial killer or have a podcast.
Skulldrinker
14hr ago
Except that straight women love gay men. I firsthand observed a woman flip from "ewwww, men" to a loving gaze the moment a conventional-looking guy mentioned being gay.
I used to know a guy who listed his sexuality on Hinge as "queer" to increase his matches, even though he was already a black-ish communist.
Skulldrinker
1d ago
There's getting rejected a lot, and then there's getting rejected with language that the mere act of speaking to a woman in public is some kind of violation. "And then he tried flirting with me, ugh. At a bar, of all places. Who does that?"
I've had women approach ME in bars only for nearby women to reflexively try to "save" her, because they can't wrap their head around a woman wanting to talk to a man and I must be up to no good. And yes, I am bitter about this.
Skulldrinker
1d ago
Cutting down on all the ambient "Men, Amirite?" seems achievable. Right now, only being an absolute panty-melter can get a woman to briefly forget she's supposed to hate her oppressors or whatever.
Every time I've had a woman approach me in the past 5 years, she's either doing something bafflingly shitty (asking for my number while the guy she's on a date with is standing right there), turns out to not be single (her Instagram is full of posts about how in love she is with her "wife," a bald man who wears a dress), or sends a bunch of overly-affectionate and increasingly sexually-explicit text messages, then mentions being on her period for some reason, then ghosts the day of the date. Or within two minutes of conversation, she manages to mention how much she hates white people (we're both white), how men are all such trash Amirite, how such-and-such film is misogynistic, and how great some book is because it's so queer. Go fucking talk to a brown gay woman then if you hate everything about me so fucking much. Also, since when is it okay to harass a stranger in a public setting? If I flirt back, will you suddenly remember the rules and accuse me of something?
So by now just having a woman talk to me unprompted puts me in a bad mood on the spot.
Skulldrinker
5d ago
Since when is saying something controversial rewarded with female approval?
Skulldrinker
5d ago
Yeah, that's a big element for me as well, plus the weird double standard; western rurals/conservatives having slightly-old-fashioned views about women and gays that they can't really enforce = disgusting bigots, but downright medieval attitudes enshrined in law and actual gay-bashing from slightly browner people is a-okay.
That doesn't account for the queerfishing. Or the hockey porn. Every woman I have a conversation with apparently judges all media based on how queer it is. I really do think this is becoming a misdirected lust thing; slightly similar to "non-threatening boys" where sex and attraction is scary, so the only men they're comfortable lusting over are guys that will never do something so un-gallant as reciprocate, to the degree they forget that reciprocation is the point of sexuality.
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