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If Europe wanted Americans to feel a sense of extrapolitical obligation toward European interests, then it should have allocated $__,000,000,000 toward the funding of European-ancestry cultural and religious social movements. Israel is a testament to the efficacy of this strategy. As is India with its strong lobbyists in Canada and America. It failed to do this, and while it’s not too late it is running out of time to catch up.
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3d ago
IMO algorithms have changed dating in recent years, as feeds will present women with highly attractive men outside of their extended social network at a considerably higher rate than in previous half-decades. In the past, a highly desirable man within one’s extended social network would be vetted to see whether he is dating half the town; if you are now being shown men outside of your network, there is no vetting possible outside of dedicated apps (which most women will never use). So an attractive man who goes viral on algorithmic feed social media can easily find 100 or 1000 dates across his state. If you are 18-25, very healthy, irreligious, why wouldn’t you do this? And for a woman, the idea of dating a man who is both attractive and famous (and with whom she can obtain fame herself) is as irresistible proposition. I think this explains why more young adult men than young adult women describe themselves as single:
63% of men under 30 describe themselves as single, compared with 34% of women in the same age group
This doesn’t apply in reverse. A highly attractive woman does not typically have an interest in dating more than two or three men at the same time. Affluent women where prostitution is legal do not typically pay for whores, but many men would enjoy meeting hundreds or even thousands of women. A man’s fantasy novel may involve dozens of partners, whereas a woman’s involves only 1 or 2 high quality partners. This is one of the strictly-biological asymmetries at play in our brave new decidedly-non-paternalistic world. A similar asymmetry is that women have higher standards for men in online dating than men do for women, and that political polarization will mathematically prevent lots of progressive women from ever finding a husband.
There is no quick solution to this problem. The solution requires bringing back the cultural technology that we lost, the rules that shame promiscuity and teach women to be humble and teach men to settle down early and not date half the town. The women who have been misled into thinking that they deserve the hottest man in the world will be miserable at the realization that their destined match is Literally Just Some Normal Guy With a Bad Haircut. For men who have exhausted their dating prospects, the best solution is probably just to look at different countries, where “American” adds extra points in dating. It is no more abnormal for a foreign woman to fall for an American man as it is for an American woman to fall for a Frenchman or British aristocrat, or a Midwestern girl who watched too many K-Dramas to fall for a Korean. There was a funny tweet that went viral the other day about American GIs finding European women more agreeable than American women, so much so that American women had to launch organizations and campaigns to stop all the marriages. But ultimately I think that should be a last option, and imho you should pick a woman from Europe or the Middle East or whatever your culture is, over anywhere else.
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3d ago
China is good if you are typically Chinese, with instincts toward emotional suppression, conformity, lower novelty-seeking, in-group cohesion, etc. I imagine the rigidity in work and school would drive the typical European into neurosis. There’s no reason to think that a state can ever be designed such that it maximizes the happiness of two distinct cognitive / temperament types.
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5d ago
they seem very popular among women
If it is the case that everything traces to Ev Psych, then the “environment” of the progressive woman is torturous: your tribe has been deposed from power and the enemy tribe now rules over your old territory (he is “not my President”); their warriors now invade the dwellings to snatch away the little ones (Guatemalans and Ecuadorians short in stature whom she has been made to identify with as tribal equals — they cook the communal meals in the longhouse). The evolutionarily-correct response to this is to literally scream and stress all the men in the vicinity. Someone should do a survey to see whether political radicalization among women is negatively correlated to whether their husbands are rich / tall / strong / possessing abundant acreage, as these things would lead to a primal sense of safety and security. It is obviously lower in religious women who believe in a strong and mighty God, paternalistic and providing, who exacts vengeance against enemies in time. (Where are all the stressed out Somali women? They are psychologically buffered against this.)
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5d ago
I have two relatives that are passionately anti-ICE and I have found only a limited amount of reasoning in the maintenance of their viewpoint. They have no interest in discussing the possible consequences of high amounts of low IQ migrants on society, how deterrence theory factors into the desire to deport those who arrived as a child, the longterm impact of demographic change, or the actual statistical risk that ICE poses in regards to unjustified use of force. They are stuck on ideological “flashbulb memories” from the media and thoroughly convinced that ICE = totalitarianism = no freedom = very bad = they will come for the women next (and other such statements of catastrophe). I speculate that the motivations behind some of the protesting has a purely psychological etiology: excitement from a sense of purpose + externalizing the problems which plague one’s own life. Toward this latter point, I am reminded of the externalization in Ecclesiastes, where the worries about the breakdown of the human body are writ large symbolically onto the body-politic:
Remember also your Creator in the days of your youth, before the evil days come and the years draw near of which you will say, “I have no pleasure in them”; before the sun and the light and the moon and the stars are darkened and the clouds return after the rain, in the day when the keepers of the house tremble, and the strong men are bent, and the grinders cease because they are few, and those who look through the windows are dimmed, and the doors on the street are shut—when the sound of the grinding is low, and one rises up at the sound of a bird, and all the daughters of song are brought low— they are afraid also of what is high, and terrors are in the way
Spoiler in case you wish to decipher the metaphors yourself:
Consider the poignant interview from the No King’s Protest: “I'm just so scared. I'm 74 years old. I worry about everything. I just, I just am so scared and upset, and I don't - I don't understand why people voted for this person." Fear, worry, confusion, alienation — is this really all Trump’s doing? Or instead, are these found in one’s own life, and there is a pressing need for communal catharsis, however artificial, which is so difficult to find in our secular and atomized age? A possibility.
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5d ago
The question is if Iran wants them to be apostasizing. Probably not. I don’t think any religious country wants their citizens to be non-religious. Their inability to fix apostasy does not mean that they should throw out their whole social technology infrastructure. But the extent of apostasy is probably exaggerated in Western news, to drum up support for a perceived irreligious youth rebelling against those wicked & oppressive tyrannical mullahs.
Iran's TFR is 1.7. It's basically a Western country
A higher TFR than White Americans while only making 1/4th of their adjusted average wage is incredible. (Not that wages are so important for TFR, but really low wages and really high wages have an effect).
Do they actually have 2% of the population with an extremely high fertility rate? If they wanted such a thing, they'd be better off encouraging religious diversity. I don't see how enforcing Islam helps with that.
Without Islam their TFR would go even lower. An Iran that is legally “Islamic” can direct resources to those subpopulations which are high TFR, and has a generally better chance of one day fixing TFR concerns. An atheistic country is totally fucked wrt TFR and has pretty much zero chance of recuperating fertility except through a quasi-religious fascism.
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5d ago
Sometimes but I chop it up first. Feels cleansing. Also ginger.
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6d ago
I disagree that those things originate from “reaction formation” against not being the smartest person. They are more easily explained by the general fact that humans get passionate about things they like and have a habit of exaggerating its importance. Somewhere out there is a surfer or painter or deadhead who never cared for intelligence yet believes his chosen hobby is the balm of mankind. That’s just what everyone does. If they have no intellectual pursuit, then this comes out in their consumer purchases or luxury experiences, as another way to obtain a sense of self-importance. This quote isn’t exactly fitting but as Pascal notes,
Vanity is so anchored in the heart of man that a soldier, a soldier's servant, a cook, and a porter brags and wishes to have his admirers. Even philosophers wish for them. Those who write against it want to have the glory of having written well; and those who read it desire the glory of having read it. I who write this have perhaps this desire, and perhaps those who will read it…
As for those believing “nerds are loathsome scum who deserve to be bullied”, I’ve never actually seen this directed against anyone but those who like Marvel and Funkopops. Usually niche interest enjoyers have respect for other niche interest enjoyers. Scott’s implicit assumption appears to be that everyone who does not worship strict empirical rational inquiry is coping with not being the best at rationalism, which is quite the convenient line for someone who is the very face of rationalism. But EQ and embodiment are probably interesting things to get passionate about. If you don’t believe in EQ, you’ll have to explain why the smartest students in the world party on the weekend to rap music made by artists with a low IQ. This is my favorite example demonstrating EQ, becaus there are a lot of high IQ people who wish they could be rappers, but no one parties to their music on the weekends.
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6d ago
people are rat bastards and no amount of encouragement can get defect-bots to stop being defect-bots
I have faith that that there are ways to do this… We just have to be very clever…
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6d ago
I would like to see this so we can measure which system is best for resource acquisition, development, and player enjoyment
https://youtube.com/watch?v=1J0FC36ZHUI
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