conoclast
1d ago
This comment annoyed me enough to actually make an account -- as I feel a lot of personal sympathy (feeling utterly scammed by parents/school/society in a large way) and the topics of many of the polls read as sincere to me and with tons of topics where the 'controversy' or 'provocative' strikes me with a lot of confusion why the topic is controversial at all, which has made me significantly frustrated when "stirring up controversy" is the framing that some opponent would like to paint me as, when several times in my life I've said things that are just my honest thoughts with no intent to be controversial at all and I'm tired of it.
This gives me a temptation to think "these people are going to call me this anyway, when should I really not care", and with Aella's having an audience and doing this for years maybe playing into that 'role' became tempting. Negativity bias + being poor at taking feedback seems general amongst influencer-people too. So I personally find that credible.
(I do find Aella's glorfifying sex work / crypto promotion stuff strange myself -- but not even the haters are talking about the crypto promotion stuff)
Yes -- many of the inquiries I am surprised are treated as taboo as they are, many social 'norms' and rules are nonsensical and often weaponized already, "asking questions" is pushback and not malicious.
Well I can't know for sure how much controversy could be intentional, something that makes her less credible about this is she's done this for an audience for so long, and she 'should' know there are some others who react horribly to her. (In her shoes, I would not be able to consistently predict which topics would offend people though -- just that it would happen and for her has already happened for years.) It seems more resonant to me that she just does have the same disgust reaction / have the awareness of the "normal person" optics -- so yes, I think she is more sincere than others here seem to think.
The idea that my honest thoughts and positions could be labeled as 'provocative' (which they have before) is subjective to the reader, and I am often more frustrated by it than it has ever helped. In my life I have personally kept silent most of the time, which converts it into silent frustration and feelings of alienation about other people, instead of turning it into 'part of my brand' like Aella.
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