dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
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dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
2yr ago
My parents are in an arranged marriage and it's been pretty heartbreaking. My father is psycho but my mother feels that the crushing weight of extended family makes getting divorced impossible. So color me skeptical by anecdata.
Are we sure that we're not mistaking long lasting and happier with trapped and miserable?
dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
2yr ago
Isn't it valid to say "I get jealous and it makes me feel bad and I don't think it's something I need to work on. Thanks"?
dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
2yr ago
Is that what happened? Or is the article about the creepy EAs who had the nerve to say polyamory exists and they do it and believe it's not bad and wrong?
dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
2yr ago
Unless your value and pedigree are pre-established you must submit your bid in the most dehumanizing and easily disregarded possible way.
dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
2yr ago
This reminds me. About ten years ago I asked a girlfriend who was an advertising exec if there was a cool edgy counterculture left that hasn't been co-opted by the mainstream and completely hollowed out yet. Without missing a beat she replied "polyamory". Adding "it's just too weird".
With that in mind, the obvious enlightenment of polyamory aside, I do wonder if it's kind of poison pill that's meant to keep out normies.
Everyone's on-board with being part of a smart do-gooder club until they're introduced to some metamours.
dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
2yr ago
From a survival of the fittest perspective you convinced me cancel culture is actually good.
Not entirely sure that I'm kidding?
dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
2yr ago
Typically, proposed solutions to "systemic white supremacy" involve extracting some cost from white people, or holding non-white people to a different standard. Whether or not this is actually "blaming white people" is a matter of the bow that's put on it.
I don't mean to dismiss the idea of systemic white supremacy completely. Cultural baggage is obviously real and doesn't go away at the stroke of a pen.
More like immediately jumping to 5 black cops exhibiting lethal brutality towards a black civilian = systemic white supremacy at work.
This is blaming every bad thing that ever happens to black people on white people. Both the victim and the cops In this case, sorry, it's a bit much for me.
It comes across as saying black cops in 2023 are still not responsible for their actions. Give me a break?
The first Untouchables that have equal rights are probably going to be pretty baggage laden. After, oh, I don't know, 2-3 generations of Untouchables achieving the heights of power I have less sympathy for the seemingly complete disavowal of ownership of decision making.
When do we get to stop kneejerk blaming every bad thing on systemic white supremacy? That's the roadmap I want to see.
I didn't know anything about Memphis before this incident but it looks like its murder rate is 7x the national average, at 44.4 per 100,000.
Memphis is not the worst American city in this regard but it's really up there.
Ironically, you used Rio (de Janeiro?) as an example of the pathological case but its murder rate is actually only 20.6 per 100k. (Though the absolute numbers are bonkers since the city is huge)
dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
2yr ago
I'm kind of unsettled by the fresh new wave of Twitter excitementspew that it doesn't matter if you have black cops, black chiefs of police, black prosecutors, black judges, black city councils, black mayors, black members of Congress, black Presidents: systemic white supremacy makes them all racist too. Just going to chuckle nervously and assume that all of these online people aren't real.
Hard not to wonder if 100 years from now, white people could be only 5% of the population of the US but every bad thing that's done is considered latent white supremacy.
So. I buried a beloved uncle this week and was asked to be a pallbearer in a Catholic mass. I said yes on the spot because it was unthinkable to say no to a grieving widow, someone I also love dearly.
I quickly Googled what was involved operationally (how much to lift, how many of us would carry, etc) but stopped there. I'd have carried it miles if asked so the details didn't matter.
I hadn't realized I would be bringing it into a Catholic church, with all mourners at the service watching, and be met by the priest near the entrance. I had begun crying while carrying it, and when we passed through the door the priest said something to the effect of "we receive in the name of the father, son and holy spirit"[1]. He had a mic on his lapel somewhere and the words echoed through the church. As we brought it to the alter there was a chant or song I can't really remember the words to, but it made me really tear up.
I found it both very painful and also very beautiful.
I know this is a fairly cookie cutter thing but it may as well have been a spiritual experience for me. Something about carrying the body of someone who had lost absolutely everything, like 100.00%, to their resting place, was a powerful symbol of mercy.
This act is clearly ceremonial and unnecessary. We could easily use machines to do this and spare the pallbearers the emotional gut punch of carrying their dead loved one. But the whole funeral is just as unnecessary by that logic. That's not the point.
I am as cynical an atheist as they come, but the comfort and beauty of this process was not lost on me. At all. Ideally when a loved one passes you would all get together and bespoke produce exactly the most beautiful, memorable and touching experience to honor them. But that's not something most people can do. It's even more challenging that the people who know best what the deceased would want are often too stricken with grief to plan anything. It's another form of practiced mercy to offer this.
The Catholic Church has a lot of problems but as far as traditions go, it's pretty good at this transition from life to death thing. This is to say, I found these quotes from Ratzinger very timely and as something to reflect on.
Thank you.
- I'm paraphrasing. If anyone knows exactly what he would have said please let me know. I was so shocked I'm drawing a blank.
dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
2yr ago
he declares his intention to always side with the weak against the the strong no matter the situation. Which sounds good on a protest sign until you think about it for two seconds.
Sorry I'm dense. Could you explain?
dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
2yr ago
It does sound like a bit of a self-fulfilling prophesy, doesn't it?
OTOH here's Gavin de Becker arguing for it.
https://gdba.com/best-advice-for-a-lost-child/
Is what I’ve said politically incorrect? Maybe so, but the luxury of not running for office is that I don’t care if it’s politically incorrect. The fact is that men in all cultures and at all ages and at all times in history are more violent than women — and facts are not political.
I can't really justify it aside from aspirational thinking. One day you'll be able to add "become woman" to cart and click checkout and that will work perfectly and completely and tracking cis or trans will be meaningless. But until that day comes we'll just have to pretend really hard that it's already here, is the quiet part of those policies, IMO.
How aspirational can one get about this?There's a little mini lesson for kids where you tell them if they're ever lost, find a police officer for help. But that's not helpful because most of the time there are no police around. So, it's been modified to: find a woman and ask them for help.
That seems fairly uncontroversial. Women are less likely to be predators and more likely to help, by just the power of statistics.
Ever since I've heard this I've been deliberately sizing random men and random women up in public and trying to imagine how they'd react to my lost 4 year old going up to them. Seems to pass the sniff test. To be clear, overall even most men give me the sense they'd be helpful and not predators, but women even moreso (I run into zero homeless insane looking women, for example).
But, does this still work if it's a trans woman? I've never met a trans woman who has given me the sense that they'd react anything like the median cis woman would if they came across a lost child. I just don't believe saying you're a trans woman makes you less dangerous than a random male is to a small lost child. If anything I would move slightly in the opposite direction because of all of the other unfair associated baggage that comes with being unlucky enough to be trans in our society.
I am genuinely curious what a trans inclusive feminist would say here.
dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
2yr ago
Is it just me or do these 4 examples seem kinda like they're fighting subpoenas for left wing causes?
dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
2yr ago
I don't really understand why the response to the FBI wasn't "feel free to click 'report this tweet' if you think it violates our AUP".
The fact that they wanted an inside line but still couldn't produce any legal process compelling them to take tweets/accounts down doesn't look very good? If you were Twitter would you want to normalize this? Why would you want to be in a place where you're continuously negotiating with law enforcement about what you can and can't take down?
This seems like humoring computer illiterate people at the FBI slash keeping them from getting mad and asking for burdensome regulation.
dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
2yr ago
He says he suspended them for doxxing his private jet location.
dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
2yr ago
Yeah, I was blissfully unaware. I did notice some glitches but they went away after exit/restart. Like some Johnny Silverhand flashback guitar riff never stopped playing and was still going on 20 minutes later. Minor stuff.
Kind of a tangent but I feel like I have to tell this to someone: the only part of the game that seems far-fetched to me was that they managed to build so many more skyscrapers in an American city by the year 2077.
I basically didn't follow CP2077 development at all, other than hearing vaguely about the game's existence and something about choosing your own genitals. One day I learned that it came out and I bought it on Stadia and thought it was beautiful and really playable. I went maybe a good ten years since I last played a 3D FPS game and the magnitude of the production value that went into the game completely blew me away.
In addition to being visually stunning it has some pretty great storytelling and although some of it is cheesy and cringe (feels like 190% too PC at times), some of it's really clever and edgy and original. Like crucifying that guy. Wtf lol.
That was 2 years ago. Stadia announced it was shutting down recently, and I was reminded that the game exists. Now I have a beefy Windows PC with a respectable GPU so I bought the game again, last week, just because it felt right to have it. I even played it for a bit, and thought "huh, yup. still remarkable".
I assume all of the complaints about CP2077 are from very online types who are impossible to please. But perhaps I'm a simpleton and there are much better games out there I should spend my time on.
Oh well. Can't wait for the expansion packs and sequel.
dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
2yr ago
Wives who are angry that their husbands listened to Tom Brady and put their life savings on FTX might qualify as fairly ordinary.
dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
2yr ago
It's wild to me how people can brazenly lie and expect to keep getting away with it. A lot of them do indeed get away with it, at least for a while, and maybe that's just aided by a favorable media environment that they build around themselves. The nerdy scrutinizers that raise suspicions don't usually have that much reach, and MPMD's hour-long video just happened to be shocking and egregious enough to go viral and force a confrontation. Also, I've been vaguely aware of social media influencers, but I don't think I appreciated just how fabulously lucrative being successful on that front can be. I wonder how much the financial incentives encourage this kind of pathological lying.
Well, is there any down side? He faces no criminal charges or lawsuits, right?
If you have no shame at all it seems like a fine way to become a celebrity and make money.
Jane Street, the esteemed quant trading firm SBF and Ellison came from, have had their reputation tarnished a bit as a result. But on the other hand...
Forget crypto, if someone can just figure out what Bankman-Fried has to reduce people like this to squeeing fanboys and then bottle it, that's a sure-fire fortune!
SBF and Ellison apparently were not successful in convincing them to help build their rocket ship to the moon, so maybe they're much smarter than we thought.
dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
2yr ago
He didn't simply "lose" customer money, as though he were a factory owner all whose warehouses burned down taking his entire stock with them, leaving nothing to sell for the lucrative Christmas quarter and the enterprise up to its ears in debt and bankrupt.
Permit me a moment to torture the analogy. Suppose you have warehouse full of valuable stuff that's been freshly manufactured ready to ship to buyers that have already paid for it. You spent all of the money the customers paid you (including profit) to build even more units than your customers ordered in anticipation of future demand. Right around this time your brother calls you up and asks you hey bro can you send me like a fuckton of units I've got a whale. You say sure. You look at your inventory list and ship only the extra units to your brother.
The units for your brother burn down in transit because of an accident. Nobody had insurance, because he was your brother and you both though you could manage the risk of casualty. Fuck. Well, I guess there's no profit but at least you can ship to your customers.
Then, while processing customer fulfillment someone looks at the accounting closer and realizes there was an error in inventory, you actually accidentally also gave away a huge portion of your customer's units to your brother too, which burned down in transit. Your warehouse is almost empty but still something like half of your customers got nothing. And you have no money to pay them back with.
Did you commit a crime? Or did you just flagrantly fuck up?
Right, I'm asking if the "keeps pushing you" part actually happened, or if the person was so weirded out by the whole concept that they felt creeped on simply because someone dared to offer.
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