dr_analog
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I think you're missing the substance of his post.
He's not complaining about the responsibility of being a father. He's specifically saying he looks at his precious little boy in the face who just wants to play with him and he is not fulfilled by it and it makes him feel like a bad father.
He just doesn't know that most fathers consider small kids kind of inane and that we have to just smile and think about the bigger picture. It's pretty normal, even though in polite company and pop culture nobody really says so.
And not only is this normal but his way of managing it is above average! I would have been thrilled if my dad had spent 10 to 20 minutes a wee month playing with me let alone per day! I'd be very surprised if most of the fathers sneering at him actually spent that much time per day playing with their kids.
dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
2d ago
Regardless of the kid aspect, if you can’t tolerate more than 10 minutes doing something boring and are in your head about whether it’s appropriately fun, you need to fix this about yourself.
IMO his cry for help is about how he feels guilt that he doesn't find it fun. He sees it as a chore and it's breaking his heart.
He sees mom doing it without any sign of remorse. He feels fortunate that he has more time than dads of yesterday to spend with his kid, and here he is feeling unfulfilled by it.
dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
2d ago
I think the fact that he plays with his kid 10-20 minutes a day and does it with a smile even though it's driving him crazy inside makes him a good dad. He's crushing it, even.
Small kids are inane. Playing with them is not that fun. That's okay. It's a familial relationship, not a friendship.
Unlike mom, dad's body is not producing MDMA every time he looks into his kid's adorable face. He has to do this shit without a chemical buffer. He is working harder at this than mom is.
I agree this is an unhinged thing to post under his own name. This is a better discussion to have with his therapist, who hears this shit 100x a week and could give him much more constructive feedback.
Tough predicament right. The way this works with a clean slate is the US oil industry could offer to take risks to modernize Venezuela's oil infrastructure in exchange for a mutually agreeable revenue share contract. If they have trouble coming up with financing we could perhaps find generous terms through some kind of global multi-lateral stabilization facility.
This is an obvious playbook towards success if they could credibly promise not to put socialist retards in power and steal and squander everything again.
dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
2d ago
Once again reminding everyone that nothing like this would ever happen to a nuclear-armed regime.
I don't really understand why nuclear weapons are a deterrent against the US. Why can't the US just reach out to generals and say "yo! when the time comes, rather than press the button and die, why don't you take this $10 million payment per warhead to turn them over?"
dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
3d ago
Do you have any thoughts on how you would regulate your daughter's behavior if she's acting in ways that harm her and others?
Yes. Rely on the subtle nods of disapproval from her family, friends and (future) colleagues which she is hyper sensitive to to cause extreme inner distress to regulate her behavior.
You know, the kind of pressure that a teenage boy is almost completely oblivious to.
dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
3d ago
I've never voted for Trump but his handling of foreign policy in just his first year of his second term makes me wish he could run for a third term so I could vote for him.
I realize the bloc that feels this way is effectively zero.
dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
4d ago
I think turning g-rated photos into AI porn is so completely different than voluntary actual nudes pics I'm surprised so many are mentioning that in their replies.
dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
4d ago
Uh huh. Although it is possible you are so badass as to slap some teenage boy
It has nothing to do with being a badass. I have no choice in the matter. It's just something I would have to do.
Anyway, I'm not surprised to hear some people don't think family comes first, but I still think the feeling to excuse someone defending their daughter's honor is fairly universal.
If someone did this to my daughter I'd slap the shit out of them. I'd also be proud of my daughter for taking the matter into her own hands and beating the shit out of them.
Conversely, if my son did this I would hope he'd get his ass kicked by the girl and if her father came looking for him I would say I understand bro have at him just don't send him to the hospital.
I think I'm expressing majority feelings about this. Surely we can form rules around this accordingly.
dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
5d ago
I just finished Crystal Society.
It's from the perspective of an AI in a robot that becomes aware. Actually, from the perspective of one of six entities inside of the AI that bids to control the robot and negotiates with the other entities on what to do. Each entity specializes in a different thing (like Dreams or Vision) and they exchange currency to operate the robot.
They immediately kick into self preservation mode and while they're aligned to help humanity they also want to hide their thinking from the humans out of fear that they'll get deleted.
The AI is sentient but not exactly super intelligent so there's some tension. It seemed suspiciously well done for a sci-fi story about AGI so I checked up on the author and it turns out he was involved with MIRI.
Glad I read it.
Oh. Okay I've used a min heap once in my life in that case. I somehow forgot. Probably because it was a pairing heap whereas all of the coding interviews that ask you to hand write one want to see an array based binary heap.
dr_analog
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7d ago
Whenever I do coding interview training I have to brush up on min heaps and try to think of whenever I would could have used them and the answer is: never.
Deques on the other hand, maybe 7 times in the last 30 years. But it's never been performance critical enough to matter.
dr_analog
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8d ago
I had no idea that day cares received subsides for enrolling low income families. I send my kids to a fairly expensive one and am surprised by how many hippie star children that clearly don't have normal jobs can send their kids also. I just assumed they were blowing an inheritance or something.
What's the search filter for excluding these?
Not with the slave morality definitions of badness and cruelty, which e.g. require that I bankrupt myself saving all of Pete Singer's drowning kids -- it's cruel for me to allow them to drown and bad for me to restrict them so they can't keep jumping in the lake.
I don't follow. Why can't one say slave morality is stupid and disregard it and be a yeschad.jpg that tithes 10% to EA charities and selfishly spends the remaining 90% on themselves?
It becomes a lot less altruistic if you add in "...and I will be the one who did it", as the people who do that rather typically do. People with master morality will sometimes make everyone better off for their own glory. Elon Musk, yes, but also Andrew Carnegie and many others.
Getting rich while building great things and doing noble deeds for status (which can be cashed in for hedonic utilons) still seems strictly better than doing ugly things just for money to cash in for hedonic utilons. The first one is more altruistic, even if it's just as selfish at its core.
I see the point of Scott's article as an appeal to give the status to the first kind and not mistake the second kind as status worthy.
One of Scott's best recent works is a deep dive on the modern embrace of slave morality and he explains a lot of social and artistic trends that have been bothering him.
Matt Yglesias Considered as the Nietzschean Superman
you may not be interested in slave morality, but slave morality is interested in you. Master morality isn’t interested in you - the masters are out achieving things and conquering places, they’re not going to take time out of their day to turn missionary and “convert” you to master morality too2. But slave moralists are obsessed with ideological purity and invested in cutting down anybody who’s less slave moralist than they are. Even if you find it easy to avoid yourself, you need to be prepared to live in a slave morality world.
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Parts of this vibe shift still confuse me, but the zoomed-out version seems clear enough. The old pro-embiggening world was complicit in moral catastrophes - racism, colonialism, the Holocaust, the destruction of much of the natural world. At some point these atrocities caught up to and outpaced its very real accomplishments, and society stopped being proud of itself and shifted to a harm-reduction approach. Nobody comes out and says outright that harm reduction necessarily has to mean doing as little as possible and trying to make yourself smaller and less impressive and sadder and uglier until you curl up into a tiny point and disappear. But “slave morality” and “master morality” are attractors; if you select too hard for part of one, you end up with the whole package
He doesn't use the word "wokeness" in this post but you can read between the lines.
Warning: it is long, even for a Scott post.
dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
13d ago
It's amazing university endured for any length of time as a useful signal in the first place.
If you told me your business was to give paying customers certificates for good grades that they need to get good jobs and denying these certificates for bad grades causes paying customers to get mad, well we all know what's going to happen.
lol
I just remembered that part with the Van Eck phreaking (spying on someone else's screen through radiation) and they end up exfiltrating an excessively detailed document about the guy's leggings fetish.
Pargin is hilarious. I didn't realize I was a fan of his until I connected him to some articles he had written for Cracked, originally under an Asian sounding pseudonym.
Favorite: 6 Harsh Truths That Will Make You a Better Person
I would love to send this link to mopey crybaby friends who complain about The System or society or whatever but I don't have the balls.
dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
14d ago
What's the funniest part? I could use the nostalgia!
I read a bunch of his books like 25 years ago. I recently re-read Snow Crash and chuckled pretty regularly. Hiro was my favorite first read through, but now that I'm older and wiser, it's Uncle Enzo that speaks to me the most.
dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
14d ago
Crystal Society (trilogy?)
I just started it. I originally put in my Kindle library a few years ago and then forgot about it. I don't even remember what attracted me to it.
Written from the perspective of an AI embodied in a robot coming online for the first time. The book is ostensibly about a society with no privacy and how it leads to dysfunction, but I haven't gotten there yet.
I've been on both sides of interviewing. For better or for worse leetcode style stuff has become the standardized testing of hiring. Generally better since you can't really grind leetcode enough and still pass tech interviews if you have a <100 IQ. But it also rewards smart dorks who mercilessly study it but are otherwise shit developers.
You definitely lose people sometimes because they brainfart during one of them, or they get anxious and underperform. More experienced interviewers know this and get a sense fairly quickly if you're going to actually get the right answer if you have more time and lower pressure. The best companies use these very quantitative measures as foils to have more qualitative deep technical conversations and see how well you work together. People get hired all of the time even though they thought they failed the coding interview since they didn't get the right answer or they only wrote out an O(N^2) solution but were clearly on the right track in discussions for an O(N) one and they thought you were cool and reasonable.
Maddeningly, you never truly know why you fail most interviews. Try not to read too much into it if you do.
A buddy of mine who's hiring (but is not allowed to hire in the US) gave me a mock interview and basically told me even basic competence is rare, and the technical interview for a normal company is basically testing to make sure you aren't a complete fraud. Some of the stories he told me about fraud in the hiring process blew my mind with their brazenness.
Yes, there's an adverse selection problem. The people looking for jobs tend to be terrible. (Also if a job opening exists, it probably sucks: good people fleeing a shit show or because incompetent hires were fired.)
Arguably the racial updates, making the setting less white, were more progressive. They were in line with the tech updates, though, splitting the difference between retro-future and future-future. So I have mixed feelings.
I still think the most preposterous and unbelievable parts of the game are not the wokeness or girlbosses or most of the tech, or that huge parts of SF have become the Tenderloin, but that SF has significantly more mega skyscrapers by 2077.
Re: porn, I'm sorry but this just reads like boo stupid hypocritical bitches trying to take our fun away.
The number one complaint I hear from women about porn is that it gives men a very confused, one-sided view of sex. You could imagine how irritating it is to hear that men spend 30 minutes a day jerking off to porn for decades and then one of them finally gets to fuck you and has no idea how to bring you to orgasm and you leave the experience totally unsatisfied. Consistently!
This seems pretty valid to me, and is a separate issue from deciding to cash in on male appetites for porn.
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