To advance what Botond said, I think you need some perspective if your answer is "6'3'' male virgin is easily able to acquire a one-night-stand." This doesn't really in any way offer a solution to a large portion of men that are practically seen as subhuman in a dating context and are also not interested in one-night stands. It's cool that a guy who meets an elite standard can get the bare minimum, but what about everyone else?
I agree with you on a lot of what you're saying and I think hating women as people is unfair and a dead end, but the fact remains that they pretty much hold all the cards in a dating context and seem to be taking every possible path to make themselves unhappy when given the choice, and the biggest victim in this story seems to be unwanted men that no one sympathizes with. Constantly they are told that they must improve themselves, they must become highly-fit breadwinners with perfect attitudes (let's talk about height as little as possible), but then you have to ask: what are they doing this for? My problem with the war on the sexes is that men are being held to an elite standard despite so many of them being disqualified for standards they have no control over, while at the same time we demand women be naturally accepted with no standards even as they raise ever-increasing standards upon others.
I do think there is a basic male urge to have it all. The strange puss, the loving baby maker, the children that look up to you as god, etc.
Regarding this and all arguments pointed at men: You need to realize that a lot of guys complaining are not merely wishing for sex. These are not necessarily the same individuals. For instance, asking men to keep themselves in check when judging women, and seeing this as a potential road to recovery, is actually a total dead end. Aggrieved incels are not the ones getting laid repeatedly and rewarding women in the short-term for their long-term self-destructive behavior. Women are not incentivized to do anything at the whims of incels. Bottom-tier women have a lot more pull than below-average men. The bottom rung of men have zero influence whatsoever. The guys complaining have no sway here. This power disparity is why any calls upon men to do more for women are (as always) deeply misguided when women seem to be losing themselves even more year after year and are not being met with any calls for regulation of behavior (such calls are viewed as deeply suspicious).
Likewise, guys with standards who want a serious relationship even if they can pull a slut are easily ignored if they're not so desirable. The guys you're complaining about are a rather select few who have nothing to gain from listening to you but this kind of complaint is always generalized to cover all men, including the ones who would change it if they could, and are doing nothing to drive this issue.
Full disclosure: I'm gay, so my stance is perhaps naturally male-biased, but I have no vested interest in the straight dating market.
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To advance what Botond said, I think you need some perspective if your answer is "6'3'' male virgin is easily able to acquire a one-night-stand." This doesn't really in any way offer a solution to a large portion of men that are practically seen as subhuman in a dating context and are also not interested in one-night stands. It's cool that a guy who meets an elite standard can get the bare minimum, but what about everyone else?
I agree with you on a lot of what you're saying and I think hating women as people is unfair and a dead end, but the fact remains that they pretty much hold all the cards in a dating context and seem to be taking every possible path to make themselves unhappy when given the choice, and the biggest victim in this story seems to be unwanted men that no one sympathizes with. Constantly they are told that they must improve themselves, they must become highly-fit breadwinners with perfect attitudes (let's talk about height as little as possible), but then you have to ask: what are they doing this for? My problem with the war on the sexes is that men are being held to an elite standard despite so many of them being disqualified for standards they have no control over, while at the same time we demand women be naturally accepted with no standards even as they raise ever-increasing standards upon others.
Regarding this and all arguments pointed at men: You need to realize that a lot of guys complaining are not merely wishing for sex. These are not necessarily the same individuals. For instance, asking men to keep themselves in check when judging women, and seeing this as a potential road to recovery, is actually a total dead end. Aggrieved incels are not the ones getting laid repeatedly and rewarding women in the short-term for their long-term self-destructive behavior. Women are not incentivized to do anything at the whims of incels. Bottom-tier women have a lot more pull than below-average men. The bottom rung of men have zero influence whatsoever. The guys complaining have no sway here. This power disparity is why any calls upon men to do more for women are (as always) deeply misguided when women seem to be losing themselves even more year after year and are not being met with any calls for regulation of behavior (such calls are viewed as deeply suspicious).
Likewise, guys with standards who want a serious relationship even if they can pull a slut are easily ignored if they're not so desirable. The guys you're complaining about are a rather select few who have nothing to gain from listening to you but this kind of complaint is always generalized to cover all men, including the ones who would change it if they could, and are doing nothing to drive this issue.
Full disclosure: I'm gay, so my stance is perhaps naturally male-biased, but I have no vested interest in the straight dating market.
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