jericho
1yr ago
I love the irony that baseball cards from your father's era are valuable because kids played with them (and ruined them) and Moms threw out the collection later, while baseball cards from my era are still totally worthless because everyone from my childhood saved them in archival quality protetive materials (I still remember kids arguing about the merits of various cardboard boxes and plastic pockets sheets) for long term storage.
The exact same thing happened to comic books, of course. At least that has the advantage of it not being too expensive to read old (but-not-too-old) series.
A distinction I often see made online, though I'll admit this might be like The Simpsons Jealousy vs Envy distinction (that is to say, not actually a distinction consistent with current or historical use), is that a fetish is required for arousal/climax while a kink is not.
So someone who gets off on feet would have a foot kink, someone who needs feet to get off would have a foot fetish.
jericho
1yr ago
Not really, no.
In terms of most convincing, the first time I had sleep paralysis it was preceded by an erotic dream. I was having the dream and then "woke up" to the feeling of something sitting on my chest and having the image of a black demonic creature with red burning eyes (similar to this painting, which I believe I had already seen at that time). I mumbled my way through the Lord's Prayer until I woke up fully.
After waking up, I fully understood how someone could genuinely believe they had been visited by succubi / incubi. For me, it was sorted by continuing to have instances of sleep paralysis (usually not preceded by erotic dreams and with a whole menagerie of creatures of different forms tormenting me) that did not conform to that pattern until I improved my sleeping habits, at which point the sleep paralysis became much rarer.
jericho
1yr ago
Depends on how clear the memory is.
Some are like clips, with some being closer to full color and others being more faded. Some memories are more like still images, once again sometimes the colors are retained sometimes not.
For any memories that are just words, it's either a case of it literally being a memory of something heard or read or it's something that I used to have a more vivid memory of, but can now only recognize as a factual statement about my past.
It definitely feels like a reaction against the Starbucks "breakfast milkshake" rather than a genuine preference much of the time.
I've been pegged incorrectly as a coffee snob several times by co-workers due to my preference for black coffee, which I find humorous since I actually am neutral at best about its taste. I've just found it the best low calorie caffeine delivery system.
jericho
2yr ago
If we accept both positions, that unequal power structures undermines consent, and that there's an unequal power structure between whites and minorities (predominantly blacks), then this should mean that all interracial sex between a black person and a white person is rape.
There's definitely been back and forth in progressive circles about some views circling back to 1950's American Conservatism and this is absolutely one of them. Haven't seen it as much recently (could just be due to traveling in different circles, though I hope the "you've just reinvented anti-miscegenation" argument won out), but I definitely remember this coming up in progressive circles some years back, with people arguing such relationships were "problematic", but not rape (similar tone of discussion to say a 28 year old woman with a 62 year old guy- not quite willing to call it rape but people casting aspersions nonetheless). Though I'm sure someone somewhere went ahead and made the final push to the rape label.
I will say, when it came up it was almost always white guy x non-white girl and much less often white girl x non-white guy.
Whereas a white female slave owner (or someone adjacent to the slave owner, who still holds power over the slave, like a wife or daughter) and her male slave are portrayed as having equal ability to consent.
This specific scenario being the exception, I've absolutely seen this called out as the male slave being raped.
jericho
2yr ago
Oh yeah, lots of streamers are incredibly lax about that kind of stuff. Plenty of cases of questionable stuff popping up on their search history or open tabs when streaming, to the point where some intentionally leave things up as a joke (like an Amazon tab for buying a shovel along with a Google tab of local nature reserves and a Quora about how deep to dig a grave, etc etc)
jericho
1yr ago
there are just a few anemic strings of white lights hanging from the ceiling (colored lights seem to be permanently out of fashion for some reason)
I think this is part of a wider aesthetic shift towards being sleek/minimalistic that has been happening for a long time. I distinctly remember noticing as a kid in the early 2000s that there was a trend with upper-class people more likely to do white lights and lower-class being more likely to do colored lights. I tried to get my folks to put up colored lights instead of white lights, but the compromise ended up being all one color (I chose blue, which led to people asking if we had converted to Judaism).
jericho
2yr ago
Honestly reminds me a bit of the debates around vaping, regarding how much it is substituting for smoking cigarettes vs getting people hooked on nicotine who otherwise wouldn't be.
I'd say the most obvious things that pot/porn/video games have replaced (in terms of being the go-to unhealthy coping mechanisms for young despondent males) are booze/whores/gambling. Of course, booze/whores/gambling are still on the table, so in addition to weighing pot/porn/video games substituting for those vs getting people who would otherwise be clear, you have to consider that now someone can go for all six.
jericho
1yr ago
And no, the kids aren’t going to do their required history reading, so that’s not going to help. They’ll also use ChatGPT to write their papers (this is already happening), so their writing skills will atrophy as well.
Understand the concern, but I'm unclear as to why this is a problem for reading and writing about World War I and not for reading and writing about, say, The Scarlet Letter.
Would the students not wish to skip the reading and use ChatGPT to write the papers regardless of the subject matter?
jericho
2yr ago
Worth noting that out of the 4 legal states, Hawaii, Washington and Alaska also had a requirement of at least 30 days residency in state first. Only New York would have been a "road trip" option (though I suppose Hawaii was already ruled out of that regardless of the law).
jericho
2yr ago
My concern is activists who want people, including kids, to be self-critical of their identity characteristics in a social, cultural and political fashion.
Self-deconstruction is inherently very unhealthy. It's not something that should be encouraged in any way, shape or form.
Would you mind expanding on this with examples of what you mean, especially any examples outside of trans stuff?
I think you're getting at something interesting here but I'm not fully understanding it.
jericho
2yr ago
Matt Colville did a D&D video on dead empires and quoted this bit from Elrond.
Then Elendil the Tall and his mighty sons, Isildur and Anarion, became great lords; and the North-realm they made in Arnor, and the South-realm in Gondor above the mouths of Anduin. But Sauron of Mordor assailed them, and they made the Last Alliance of Elves and Men, and the hosts of Gil-galad and Elendil were mustered in Arnor.
Thereupon Elrond paused a while and sighed. 'I remember well the splendour of their banners,' he said. 'It recalled to me the glory of the Elder Days and the hosts of Beleriand, so many great princes and captains were assembled. And yet not so many, nor so fair, as when Thangorodrim was broken, and the Elves deemed that evil was ended for ever, and it was not so.
Which really drives home that the world we see is a shadow of a shadow of what it once was.
jericho
2yr ago
My understanding is that various drug manufacturers have taken steps to avoid their drugs being used for executions (believe this happened for both pentobarbital and sodium thiopental), which has led to prisons needing to use compounding pharmacies to make the drugs for them, with varied quality.
I've also read that many doctors don't want to be involved in the testing or administering of lethal injection cocktails, so the state kind of has to take who it can get, leading to more varied quality there.
I'm guessing MAiD hasn't yet had the same degree of pushback from those groups, at least so far (though I would be very surprised if it hasn't had any). That could certainly change in the future.
Also, frankly- I think comfort is a much higher priority for doctor assisted suicide than it is for execution by lethal injection. I think screaming pain moves the popular support needle away from euthanasia much faster than from execution.
Anyway, like I said. Your daughter isn't necessary in this scenario. We can keep the discussion entirely to the ethics of me doing this to you. Concerns of anonymity on the motte aside, how do you feel about sharing a photo of yourself with me after this comment?
Can't speak for them directly, but personally the daughter would be relevant because I would care significantly more if it were my daughter than me.
To answer further questions, if you sent it directly to my friends + family I would be very unhappy (though that's rather the whole point of the anonymity concerns).
If posted online with my name (so it would show up on Google etc, though once again rather the point of anonymity concerns) I'd be moderately unhappy since that means there's a decent chance friends, family or potential employers would stumble upon it.
Posted without my identifying info, I'd be a bit wigged out if people I knew personally happened to stumble upon it but its existence on the net to be used by strangers would not bother me much.
If kept on your hard drive for you and maybe a horny pc repair guy to find it I wouldn't mind at all, assuming no personally identifying info attached so the horny pc repair guy can't do scenarios 1 or 2.
If it were my child (thinking on it I would mind quite a bit if it were my son too), I would be distressed to a greater degree about all the above scenarios.
Hope that helps clear it up, that the degree of separation is being used because it is perceived as worse.
jericho
2yr ago
Opsec in this case was infinitely lax, since he was streaming his desktop with the tabs open.
Please elaborate. It seems to be limited to only the expansion of using the most severe allowable punishment (so would also be the case if the punishment for both murder and child rape were life without parole, but would not apply if the punishment for child rape were death but the punishment for murder was torture then death) for things less than murder.
One of the reasons why ancient legal codes where execution was a common punishment allowed for various different methods of execution, allowed for punishments beyond execution (such as also killing one's family, seizing lands and titles) etc.
Edit: To carry on the Qin example, if the penalty for being late was death but the penalty for treason was death and seizure of all your family's assets, there would still be incentive to not commit treason.
jericho
2yr ago
Genuinely, a similar thought in my youth is why I started to study history + geography as a hobby. I realized that given I had an interest in learning place names, cultures, the course of different wars, the lineage of different monarchs, etc, I really ought to put that drive towards things that actually existed.
This certainly hasn't stopped me from being a "lore nerd" for different games and series, but it at least keeps a little voice in my head to spend at least as much time on reading about actual nations as I do about fictional ones.
jericho
2yr ago
I think the issue there is that theoretically you are doing this for the sake of the people using the system, and I don't know if most of them would be willing to pay 5x to 10x the current cost of the ticket.
Might be a work around where single tickets are much more expensive but an annual pass or something can be bought at a more reasonable rate. Could also do some kind of partnership with hotels and/or airlines to provide discounted tickets so that tourists could still utilize the system.
Though the biggest practical obstacle would still be that
(assuming enforcement of having a ticket)
Is a big assumption. I think if you could get policy in place to enforce that, you could probably just take the next step and get policy in place to get the people causing problems off the public transportation and not need to bother with too many pricing adjustments.
jericho
2yr ago
Even 40 something old millennials are now considered as dinosaurs, their experience of family, school, childhood or church and sexuality in their childhood let's say can be considered ancient and utterly outdated.
On this subject- I am unsure if it is a generational gap or a class one, but I noticed a strong trend when reading through the AmITheAsshole subreddit: a huge % of the questions on there are related to step- or half- family.
Obviously that place would be biased towards such questions (fair to say that familial obligations to a step-brother or half-brother are less defined than those to a full brother, so more likely to seek help defining them), but I was still rather shocked.
I'm firmly in the millennial age range, so I've always lived in a post-no-fault-divorce world, but the amount of step and half siblings among my peers was tiny.
jericho
2yr ago
At the bottom, or even the middle, race might serve as a better proxy for coarsely compatible genes than achievement. Because there isn't a lot of achievement to judge by.
The specific examples you gave reminded me of some of the (all white) parents on my mother's (lower middle class) side of the family.
I think there is much to be said about how the loss of "good" non-college jobs (especially in certain regions) in the US has led to a blending of the middle, working and underclass.
My cousins on that side had kids with people who, on paper, were very similar to them in terms of finances, education, race, religion, etc (often even meeting in their shared workplaces). But, if you went a generation or two back, the class differences would be apparent. And while they'd all fall under "red tribe", looking closer there would be clear cultural differences as well.
Obviously that still leaves open the % split between nature and nurture in terms of behavior, my point being the difficulty in distinguishing based on achievement may continue to become more difficult as automation marches on and class divides widen at the top and narrow near the middle and bottom.
I would absolutely dare argue that other than crisis care, we were much healthier a century ago when the fattest man alive was 300 something pounds and this was rare enough that he was in a circus.
How narrowly/broadly are you defining "crisis care" here, before I take you up on that offer of arguing?
Edit: Also on the subject of crime, 1923 is not exactly a year I would choose for "crime was well controlled" in cities in the US.
jericho
2yr ago
Growing up I only ever heard the standard stereotype stuff (but that also applied to every race), plus maybe some conspiracy stuff that was at least ostensibly not actually about Jews even if there happened to be a lot of overlap.
Honestly surprised you didn't hear any in New York City, pre-2020 basically all the antisemitism I heard was from New Yorkers lol (though then it was almost entirely directed at Orthodox Jews).
Frankly most of the stuff I'm used to is anti-black or anti-mexican (obviously also lots of stuff about muslims in the 2001-2011 stretch) the anti-jewish stuff seems to be newer.
I'd agree that this style of map is probably the best balance, though I'm struggling somewhat to find a map in this style that is up-to-date.
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