lagrangian
2d ago
Math yes, spreadsheet no. I think I even mentioned the sqrt n expected value optimization version. If that's not first date behavior, I'm not sure what is.
I'll manage to keep the existence of the spreadsheet to myself for a minute, probably. I brought it up once on a first date that I had already decided I was not going to request a second of, and it was actually a very interesting conversation.
lagrangian
3d ago
I had to look up the actuaries reference - lowest divorce rate, neat. That kind of makes sense to me - if you're used to systematizing complex things and making mathematically optimal decisions, maybe you have good general judgement. It's a little surprising in that math != emotions, but maybe for (especially a pair of) such minds, it works.
Definitely have an actual spreadsheet. It's a fascinating artifact of my life. Basic ratings, number of dates, p(get to date i | got to date j), who ended it, that kind of thing.
lagrangian
3d ago
My spreadsheet of first dates has a new high-scoring candidate. Third date scheduled. Vibe's similar to last time, but unlike last time, she's a) actually compatible on what we want out of life, and b) comparably interested (afaict). So that's delightfully terrifying.
The secretary problem says I'm done here unless I want to spend another ~5 years at the current (nontrivial) rate of meeting people, which I fucking don't.
I'm 5'9" and mid looking at best. Just two nerds on a date, and the whole "FAANG and wants kids" thing. I figure scare off anyone who isn't compatible, expediently.
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