thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
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thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
5d ago
I am not. And this question was quite serious. I've long struggled with keeping up exercise routines because I find it hard to keep motivated due to the lack of noticeable rewards, even ones so minor as "a feeling of accomplishment" after finishing.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
5d ago
Positive discipline activities give you a generous feeling of accomplishment and instant reward. "I worked out today!"
Do people really feel this way about exercise? To me it always feels like pointless effort for a reward that never comes. It's a hopeless fight to slow the pace of inevitable regression.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
12d ago
If you're a stereotypical man who has outsourced the work of maintaining his social life to his wife for a decade
I love how we frame women controlling their partners' social lives as a burden while when men do it to their partners it is framed as abuse.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
13d ago
I think the biggest difference is male aggression toward women is usually physical while female aggression towards men is usually social, most notably attempted social ostracization. Women attack men's social bonds in ways that men don't attack women's, thus leading to this asymmetry.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
14d ago
Just as we're more concerned with female vulnerability due to men's physical aggression, I'd argue another big contributor to our concern about male loneliness is the fact that female aggression tends to manifest socially, particularly via ostracization of the target.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
25d ago
I didn't intend to counter FCfromSSC--I largely agree with his assessment of the current state and trajectory of support for political violence in the US. I've noted both the progression and the fanning of the flames from leadership before. If reddit hadn't made it impossible to search, I'd dig up the comments from my old deleted account discussing how the Blue tribe needs to take de-escalation more seriously in the wake of the Congressional Baseball Shooting. And perhaps most relevantly, I argued that Blue tribers needed to be willing to tolerate a second Trump term to electorally punish Democrats for continued escalation rather than de-escalation during Biden's term in (I think) the last thread you participated in at TheSchism.
What I disagreed with was your assessment of TheSchism. As HereAndGone noted the primary reason (from my perspective anyway) we didn't discuss the assassination attempts wasn't a lack of caring but rather the inappropriateness of the forum. TheSchism was created for other topics. When political violence does come up, as it did in the thread I linked, we reject it. There's also little need to discuss individual instances of it given there's not a lot of difference of opinion on the topic among the regulars.
But I'm going to point out that it specifically in response to claims of 'right-wing' 'fascist' violence supposedly incited by Red Tribers, in 2023 long after BLM had ebbed; it does not name Red Tribers that were hit (excepting arguably a rhetorical flourish about police stations), but neighbors and friends.
And I'll point out that (1) I live in an outer suburb with quite a few neighbors you would probably consider Red tribe and (2) I was explicitly arguing that the (Red tribe) J6 rioters should be taken much less seriously than the (Blue tribe) BLM rioters rather than the other way around. But if you really want to see me 'name Red Tribers that were hit', see the first two links above.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
25d ago
I'm a noob wannabe hacker who's doing this to become better at what I do and be employed via remote jobs or start indie hacking.
Install Linux from scratch. Distros are for people who just want to use Linux without necessarily understanding it. There's nothing wrong with that--it's why I mostly stick with WSL these days--but setting up an LFS install will teach you things about Linux that carry over to any distribution you choose to (or are forced to) use in the future.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
25d ago
I think it is more a matter of conflicting priorities. Desktops and servers have different requirements from an OS and Linux development is heavily biased toward prioritizing server requirements over desktop requirements when they conflict.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
25d ago
More seriously, The Schism had less commentary on all three assassination attempts combined, between Trump and Kavanaugh, in an entire year, than it spent debating whether Trump was fascist in a single week before the 2024 election. (answer: of course, it's just a matter of how fascist). Tesla arsons, Paul Kessler, new phone who dis?
That's the subreddit that came into existence because people here didn't downvote a post FCfromSSC ate a ban over hard enough about advocacy of violence. Maybe direct advocacy is not universal among Blue Tribers (though I'll point again to Ken White or my tumblr feed and its regular DenyDefendDepose fandom), and maybe it's not here (modulo whenever Impassionata makes their next alt), but they don't care enough to comment on it; does anyone think there's a Blue Tribe locale that's going to be any stronger?
I explicitly called out Impassionata's escalating advocacy and tolerance of violence on TheSchism and it was recognized as a quality contribution. There are still Blue Tribers who see the same pattern of escalations that @FCfromSSC does and who lament that too few of our "allies" seem to be taking de-escalation seriously and would rather risk violence in pursuit of power.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
26d ago
I think you are being a little unfair here. I do not remember anyone on the Motte (even Blue folks like me) reacting to the attempted Trump assassination with anything other than disapproval. Maybe I didn't express enough horror and disapproval for you, but no one thought it was no big deal or worse, something to be encouraged. And by and large, I did not see that reaction even among my most leftie friends. Sure, TikTok was full of people screaming in dismay that the shooter missed, but do you think that actually represents mainstream Blue tribe thinking?
I'm not so sure about this. I don't remember seeing anyone on the Motte reacting that way, but of the people I interacted with IRL in my very blue bubble I was the only one who wasn't openly wishing the shooter hadn't missed. Most at least had the good grace to only do so in conversations held in private rather than public locations, but they were said openly to everyone present to widespread agreement. How much of that was puffery versus how much of it was serious is another question...
I think more Americans of all political stripes think trying to assassinate politicians (even politicians they dislike) is bad, than you are willing to credit.
I think the important question isn't whether or not they think it is bad, but whether they think it is or may become necessary.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
1mo ago
Many women have their self-worth tied up almost entirely in how other people view them. They are self-centered enough to believe that they should be in full control of how others perceive them and that anyone who is perceiving them in a way they don't approve of should be punished. They think people shouldn't be allowed to fantasize about them sexually without them being in control--and thus able to exploit--those fantasies. Men, and society in general, should ignore their whining and tell them to get over themselves.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
1mo ago
At the very least there will be less concern about the effects of AI-generated erotica for men versus for women. For instance, compare these two takes from the BBC, one focusing on AI for women, the other focusing on AI for men.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
2mo ago
I have spent my entire adult life, and even before that, with the knowledge that if I ever spoke my true political/social views I would instantly torpedo my entire career and social standing forever.
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You stomped on us for 20+ fucking years, did you never think what would happen when we became the shoe? You deserve everything bad that is happening to you; you will deserve the much worse things that are still to come.
Do you think you deserved this treatment? The left's long march and resulting political/social power was itself a reaction to decades of similar suppression after all. Is your goal to doom us to cycles of repression?
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
3mo ago
I was really thinking about more gender neutral signifiers of conventional attractiveness--eg, facial symmetry, straight teeth, etc--than specifically masculine or feminine ones. For example, consider the three stereotypically "gay-looking" burglars from Survive Style 5+. I don't think it is very controversial to say that the pretty boys you linked are more conventionally attractive than Yoshiyuki's character, even when judging by masculine standards. As for feminine mannerisms, I think some kinds of performative femininity in men should be considered masculine because it is puffery that signals confidence and fitness rather than signaling weakness or true vulnerability.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
3mo ago
Even ignoring cultural differences in what is considered 'faggy' or 'gay-looking', you are mostly talking about men who happen to otherwise be extremely conventionally attractive (including personality traits like confidence and gregariousness). I don't think that generalizes well to the larger group.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
3mo ago
From what I see, young men that look a bit gay have not been smothered by concern trolls who insinuate they're actually gay and do it so cleverly that they can't be rebuked. Those are the benefits of a culture that promotes accepting people as who they say they are.
Apparently you are either blind or living in a very different bubble than me, as I see this quite a bit and know a number of men who definitely have felt smothered by such insinuations.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
3mo ago
If a lot of women/girls are so fragile that they can't handle the mere sight of a penis without being traumatized, then we should stop pretending that they are in any way the equal of men and consign them to the home where they won't have to suffer such trauma. I don't think most women are actually that fragile (though some often pretend to be to exploit people's protectiveness...), but maybe I'm just wrong and they really aren't capable of one of the most basic parts of participating in public society: not sexualizing everyone around you.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
3mo ago
You might also check for chronic sinusitis.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
3mo ago
But it was renamed and set to private immediately after all her content was apparently removed by a mod (according to both the moderation log and the message displayed if you try to look at any of it).
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
3mo ago
How so? Welfare is typically defined as "financial support given to people in need" whereas pensions are paid out to those who contribute (and/or their dependents) based on their contributions.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
3mo ago
Why do you consider pensions to be welfare rather than compensation?
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
3mo ago
The hit-site is worth reading, I think, at least for young (and maybe not so young) men.
I love how many of their listed "patterns of manipulation" are just typical feminine behaviors in relationships:
- Uses self-deprecating statements, both privately and publicly, to elicit compliments and endear himself
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- Positions himself as submissive, which has a disarming effect, and purposely creates the illusion of the interaction’s onus being on the target, as he is "helpless” against them
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- Attempts to control other relationships in the target’s life, both romantic and aromantic; insisting he be the only man in their life, etc.
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- Distances his targets from other women with tactics such as triangulation
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- Punishment in the form of withheld attention/affection, often but not always when the target questions his behavior or is otherwise noncompliant
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- Abrupt termination of relationship without communication ( ghosting)
As usual, manipulative behavior is only seen as a problem when men do it to women. Or to put it more progressively, feminine behavior in men is seen as a bad thing...
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
3mo ago
It's been criticized for having amazingly poor care (what's the difference between a VA nurse and a bullet? A bullet can only kill one person), being more of a job program than a health system, at the same time some people love it (everyone involved understands the veteran experience).
One important thing to consider with the VA is that its level of care is pretty consistent over the entire country. It is "amazingly poor care" relative to many comparable institutions in some urban areas with high quality clinics and hospitals, but amazingly good care relative to what is available privately in many rural communities.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
3mo ago
I don't know about your workplace, but I've never had a job where I had to prove that to HR (the rough private sector equivalent of OPM here) or shareholders (the rough private sector equivalent of the "public" here) directly. That's always been strictly between me and my direct management.
These aren't mutually exclusive. If anything I'd argue the best manipulators are often those who don't consciously recognize their behavior as manipulative.
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