How do you weigh the pros and cons of having children, and how do you do research and come to conclusions about the various decisions you have to make about how to raise the kid?

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Friday Fun Thread for December 22, 2023

benjaminikuta 4mo ago

Coins, if he collects

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Wellness Wednesday for December 27, 2023

benjaminikuta 4mo ago

He has apparently booked a flight to Fairbanks on 10 February.

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Wellness Wednesday for December 20, 2023

benjaminikuta 4mo ago

Last few years I haven't done much. Next year I want to get marginally more serious about getting employment, muscles, and romance.

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Wellness Wednesday for December 20, 2023

benjaminikuta 4mo ago

How do you make decisions about parenting?

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Small-Scale Question Sunday for December 10, 2023

benjaminikuta 4mo ago

It is worrisome just how suppressive exclusion from mainstream sites can be.

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Small-Scale Question Sunday for December 10, 2023

benjaminikuta 4mo ago

I knew about this place when the exodus happened, but I didn't join until somewhat recently when someone pointed out that this was where the hockposting was happening.

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Small-Scale Question Sunday for November 19, 2023

benjaminikuta 5mo ago

Anyway, could you give some examples?

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Small-Scale Question Sunday for November 19, 2023

benjaminikuta 5mo ago

And before that, the girl I wanted to marry broke up with me in part because of how my career was going.

I wonder how I might have a conversation about this with my future partner. Say I'm stressed about my job and she asks why and how she might support me. It would seem awkward to say it's partially her fault for adding to the potential negative consequences of failure.

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Small-Scale Question Sunday for November 19, 2023

benjaminikuta 5mo ago

I certainly spent at least 18 years of my life in severe sexual and romantic frustration, and if I do end up single again, I don't look forward to the headache that is modern dating in the West.

I'm worried about this for myself. Even once I do get into a relationship, I'm afraid my knowledge that it would be hard to get another one should it end might contribute to an unhealthy relationship dynamic.