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... I guess but this fully collapses all moral distinctions about 'lying' or 'being factually correct' into a friend/enemy binary, which one could do, but I prefer higher standards than that? And anyway the people who RT his tweets so that I see them are definitely not normies, they are smart enough to know better. Same for this place. Like you do have a point, but Devon's tweet was posted here, we're smarter than this, it's not like it's a republican tv ad
This was a joke. They were explicitly and intentionally mocking the concept of conservatives saying that. It is simply unreasonable to attribute that to genuine desire to brainwash your children. I and many others here have said worse on the site we copied the code for this one from or in private.
No I think it's reasonable to find cnc vacuum bed hypno piss play concerning. But the point of the post was to explain the general obsession with being a pride moth LGBT ally. That's just a different thing, it has different causes, they can't be explained with a gesture at some other somewhat related bad thing.
I remember all the “conservatives pounce” headlines from the Gray Lady and her friends making this argument, but I’ve never bought it. Consider a world where, say, the chair of the Texas RNC or whatever puts out a pro-Trump campaign video where they say “When we win the election, we’ll go stage a little putsch, / Suspend your sad democracy and voting rights and such”. You know, to make fun of liberals’ overblown fears of a Trumpian self-coup. Do you really think that progressives like the San Franciscan choir and their defenders would accept this as just a wee bit of humor poking fun at their neuroses, rather than a serious Threat to Our Democracy?
EDIT: I realize that I forgot to clearly make my point: if you’re in a position to do things that other people think are bad, and you state “hey, we’re gonna do those things that you think are bad”, then you shouldn’t be surprised when people take you seriously. And those people would be right to wonder whether you’re just joking or going “haha, only serious”.
You'd have a point if the chair of the texas DNC put out this video. But it's a choir. It's a bunch of random people singing. The Texas Lutheran Choir singing a song about how kids should go to christian schools isn't a threat to democracy either.
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Isn't this just a classic Poe's Law case? To me, for example, the original choir line reads as clearly self-aware, but things like Trump's comment about suspending the constitution does not... but it's also quite possible that Trump's comment was self-aware, but the choir line was not. It's an internet communication problem endemic to the medium. Unfortunately, there's not a good solution, because "humor" can encompass many things, and sometimes people find the same statement humorous in different ways, and sometimes it's not even humor to start with!
Issues like this have led to my dad forgoing sarcasm altogether, though he loved it; and also, in theory, this forum doing the same, though sadly we can't help it too much if Twitter leaks in as "evidence".
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Yeah, a joke. A joke's supposed to be funny. We're also not supposed to be reminded by the many, many prominent gay men who have said they had sex as children and that it was just fine.
Ok, granted, maybe specifically SF gay men's choir had no desire to brainwash their children. But seeing as children are stupid and impressionable, what then are we to think of 'sex education' aimed at preteens ? For example.
That's pretty esoteric. What about more .. mundane stuff that's not the greatest, seeing the medical problems.
One of the weirder things out there I found while looking into body positivity-I was incredulous- is that there's is a seemingly huge website that rewards pretty women for being fat and showing it off or getting even fatter. You see, fat women who want to be body-positive also somehow resent there are men who like especially that.
Site doesn't even allow full nudity, nevertheless, by the comments it's pretty clear people are getting off on that. That's.. pretty messed up. And it seems to benefit from network effects to a huge degree.
Okay to be more clear I have made jokes like that and worse hundreds of times, as far as offensive jokes go it's one of the mainstays. Homosexuals reproduce by... I can understand not having that taste in humor, but it's simply a joke.
Retread of past discussions, but, like, have you used the internet and interacted with teenagers? They watch a lot of porn. A few years ago I was organizing some video game thing and we banned several minors because they just kept posting porn, and screenshots of them dming each other weird porn. I do not think sex ed is a notable place where kids learn about weird sex stuff, I think they basically all learn it on the internet and from their friends. This may be bad, but it doesn't have much to do with sex ed, which in turn isn't directly connected to the original thesis about LGBT online communities and toaster intercourse
Yeah, feeders, it's terrifying. There's a lot of ridiculous things. People who cut their penises off as a fetish, nullos. Self-harm fetishes. Anal prolapse!
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