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To the Motte, Seeking your sage wisdom, I come back asking for advice on how to make an LDR work.
Duration:
Best case - 4 months (with visiting)
Worst case - 7 months (with month long visit)
Medium case - 4 months without visiting
Time Delta: EST vs GMT+4:00, so 9 hours.
Overall sentiments: We want to make it work even though it's painful given its a new/fresh relationship and we know each other for roughly 4 months. (Things progressed very fast)
I am aware of the common pitfalls, failure modes, ways to make it work. But what are some unknowns and lesser known tips or pitfalls?
One that comes to mind is that undercommunication is a common failure mode, but so is overcommunication. Couples tend to overcompensate for the distance, but as a result overwhelm each other with their constant digital presence, which ultimately harms the relationship. I'm not sure exactly how to pull this off given my girl wanted almost constant communication while she was here and was very needy.
Another failure mode seems to be doing an LDR at all. Things would have picked up just fine once the partner was back and resulted in a healthy relationship, but going through an LDR results in the potential relationships failure due to the challenges it brings. I don't think this is a good strategy if things are already serious.
What are the signs you know it will work? How to make it work? Give me all your LDR knowledge.
For a second there I was like "what do you mean, make a low dynamic range work?"
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