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That study supports my point. Even among WEIRD urbanites willing to sign up for a study to discuss masturbation habits (which is surely biasing the numbers way upward) only 38% of women masturbated. Now I haven’t read their study, maybe they were ambushing Amish girls and forcing them to discuss their masturbation habits at gunpoint to balance things out, but I assume not.
I’m not saying I have never brushed past a woman at the grocery store who has masturbated. I’m saying that among women that I’ve known well enough to be confident about their masturbation habits, which is around 10 women, the rate is zero.
Given that I probably have some spooky law of attraction thing going on that biases the pool of women that I know, my experience seems eminently plausible given this study.
Not convinced that it would bias the numbers upward. Without further info, just as likely that those who don't masturbate are more likely to sign up for such a study (they have nothing to hide).
For any woman who doesn't masturbate, I would assume it's less due to her being non-horny, and more due to her getting enough sex that she doesn't need to go solo.
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90% of women you know are into bestiality. You can’t object to this by bringing up personal experience or studies because they are clearly just ashamed about it and lying to hide it
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