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PaperclipPerfector  21d ago (text post)   1253 thread views

Wellness Wednesday for April 9, 2025

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I wish this were more surprising to me. One of the weirdest things about reddit (when I used to frequent that site many times daily) was the seemingly ubiquitous acceptance as completely normal the enjoyment of what was called, to everyone's apparent satisfaction, "butt stuff." Now given that the male prostate has nerve endings and thus stimulation of the perineum can result in arousal, I suppose ramming objects into one's anus is, in the list of degenerate behaviors, probably not the most incomprehensible. But you'd also have girls (on reddit you never know if every single thing is a lie, mind you) discussing how they would wear something called "butt plugs." To say nothing of anal beads (I think "butt beads" would be more catchy). And whatever else those are in the illustrations for that list, which I did not read.

This forum is generally much younger than I am and probably I sound quaint or naïve or similar. I do not understand the pull (or push) of ass play.

Edit: I do not know why I wrote "male prostate" instead of just "prostate."

But you'd also have girls (on reddit you never know if every single thing is a lie, mind you) discussing how they would wear something called "butt plugs."

The pleasure is primarily psychological. The sensation itself doesn't have to be directly pleasurable, so no prostate required.

Why does it give psychological pleasure?

Variously:

  • A heightened sense of vulnerability and helplessness

  • Turning yourself into an instrument of someone else’s pleasure

  • Indulging in a certain sense of “interiority”: “pleasure is an affair for me, it’s complex, secret, hidden, and thereby more scarce and therefore more valuable”

etc etc.

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