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Apropos of a very small, tangential discussion on the main culture war thread, what are the borders of polyamory?
For me personally, I don’t think of any variation of one man/x number of women as actually being polyamorous in the current year sense. It’s all just gradations between patriarch with +1 wife, or a mistresses situation, or a full on Ottoman seraglio.
I can’t say I base this on much more than vibes, but modern polyamory seems to connote at least one additional male in the mix, and probably something that tends towards more even mixes of men and women.
Just because a particular form of polyamory happens to historically predate the modern polyamory movement, and be less toxic than most other examples of the category, doesn't seem to be a knockdown argument for excluding it from the category.
By analogy: we don't stop counting plumbing as “infrastructure” or “technology” just because the Romans had it, or because it doesn't lend itself easily to infinitely scrolling AI-generated feeds.
It's still irritating and anachronistic. It's like describing Da Vinci as an LGBTQ+ artist.
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