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I was indecently exposed to the other night. A man in a van pulled up beside me, got my attention, and was jacking off and recording me. I'm not broken up about it, but it is affecting me more than I would predict if you asked me before it happened. Have any of you been the victims of similar crimes, and is there anything you can do to stop thinking about it? I think time is probably the best remedy here, but just thought I'd ask.
Not been in the exact situ, but have had some where there's a sexual-related violation that I would have assumed I'd shake off in an hour or three and definitely didn't. Seems to be a pattern in the human brain, the conscious/sober/non-sexual mind underestimates the strength of both positive and negative sexual situations on us.
Time is def a necessary part of getting past it here. Just to give my experience - I'd give it five days of feeling pretty weird about it when you remember it + also remembering it fairly often. If it still bothers you more than occasionally past that you might need more help from friends or whatever resources you can tap into. It's what I've found it takes for me.
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