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I don't know how to ask it in a fanciful way, so: How can I be more evil and self-centered? I've basically sacrificed myself multiple times, halting my own life to help others (7 years to finish a BSc for being an active participant in a family problem) and I've received... Nothing. I've even had people refuse invitations for dinner, at my expense, because they're "soooooooooo busy" even though their social media reveal a very different schedule, one where I am not present.
Then I remembered during college we had a Physics Lab and decided to be a total dick as an experiment: disrespecting other, uneven workload, stumping my feet when others didn't do things my way, I was really disgusted at myself and thought other saw me as an asshole... and then I received lots of compliment for "my leadership", for having "a tough attitude but worthwhile the pain" (I'm copy-pasting literal text here). Are people retarded? Am I? Are they masochists? Was I taught wrongly and this is actually a positive role model? I don't really understand this social dynamics.
There seem to be several areas to work on here. One is making good decisions. Another is having an attractive personality. Then there is leadership. Finally understanding social cues and dynamics.
The bad news is I think you already know there isn't one silver bullet that can change all these aspects. And if it were, it certainly wouldn't be to be "more evil and self-centered". The good news is you want to improve. Depending on what your life goals are, perhaps start by reading well-reviewed biographies of people whom you admire and want to become.
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