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I'm going to offer up several counterpoints to what seems to be the consensus here and say I think the gap you're seeing between male and female reporting could very well be because 1: Women are higher in neuroticism and risk-aversion then men are, and 2: they're raised in a culture that tells them to fear unwanted sexual advances and that they are uniquely at risk of experiencing it, whereas men are not taught the same thing. This could definitely lead to them perceiving a greater variety of actions as "harassment" than men and causing women to have a greater fear of sexual harassment in public, even if they are in fact not uniquely at risk. Additionally, it's entirely plausible that due to this women are also more likely to remember and recall bad experiences that men would simply forget, widening the gulf between men and women on this topic. As a result I think a big part of what you're seeing doesn't necessarily have to reflect a difference in male and female experiences.
There's abundant evidence that males are less likely than females to conceptualise of sexual comments and experiences as abusive or harassing, and that they disclose less about these experiences. For example:
"Widom and Morris (1997) found men were much more reluctant to label child sexual experiences as ‘abuse’ than women (16% compared with 64%). Fondacaro, Holt and Powell’s (1999) study of male prison inmates also found that 41% of those who met the criteria for contact child sexual abuse did not consider their experiences as ‘abusive’ ... Other research that has linked men’s identification as a survivor of child sexual abuse to higher levels of psychological distress suggests that perceiving early sexual experiences as non-abusive may be a form of protective denial for men shielding them against painful memories (O’Leary and Gould 2010; Steever, Follette and Naugle 2001). This may mean that ‘nondisclosure is actually more adaptive for males than is disclosure’ (O’Leary and Barber 2008:135)."
And:
"The disclosure of child sexual abuse and the response the victim receives are integral to how a victim experiences the aftermath of abuse, and to their recovery (Lovett 2004). While there are some similarities in the patterns of disclosure for males and females, most notably a tendency towards non-disclosure and delayed and indirect disclosure, the research also points to some significant gender differences. The main differences are that males are less likely than females to disclose child sexual abuse at the time of abuse, and that when they do disclose, they take longer to do so, and make fewer and more selective disclosures (Gries, Goh and Cavanaugh 1996; Hébert et al 2009; Hunter 2011; O’Leary and Barber 2008; Priebe and Svedin 2008; Schoen et al 1998)."
http://www.austlii.edu.au/au/journals/CICrimJust/2014/14.pdf
Other sources seem to indicate a similar male unwillingness to report. This is a report investigating men who have been forced-to-penetrate women (through force or coercion). It notes that the vast majority of them did not tell the police, nor did they tell friends and family about it. "The majority of men did not report being compelled to penetrate a woman, either to the police or to friends and family. The reporting rate to the police of 1.7% is even lower than the reporting rate for women who have experienced serious sexual violence, which stands at around 15%. The extremely low reporting rate in compelled penetration cases suggests a clear lack of engagement by these men with the police and criminal justice process."
"The great majority (80%) of men did not disclose their experience to their family or friends."
https://wp.lancs.ac.uk/forced-to-penetrate-cases/files/2016/11/Project-Report-Final.pdf
Now, this one is simply an off the cuff Reddit post so make of it what you will, but this poll asked people "Do you consider dirty jokes that make you uncomfortable to be sexual harassment?" and it allowed people to specify their sex and their opinion on the topic. 21% of men said yes, as compared with 52% of women. Of course, this doesn't really specify the type of joke in question or the circumstances the joke was asked in, I'd wager that this poll actually understates the gender difference and that the men who answer the poll are likely thinking of more lewd and severe types of jokes than the women who answer the poll as it takes more to make them uncomfortable in the first place.
https://old.reddit.com/r/polls/comments/ravyfb/do_you_consider_dirty_jokes_that_make_you/
In other words, it's hard to know if what you're hearing actually represents a real difference in risk of sexual victimisation, or whether it simply reflects a difference in perception of events experienced and/or willingness to tell people about it. The problem is that there is a cultural phenomenon where it is increasingly encouraged for women to view their experiences with men as as harassment, assault or rape, whereas we do the exact opposite for men. Pair that with male baseline lower neuroticism and greater stoicism, and things start getting harder and harder to untangle. And while it's difficult to get reliable prevalence estimates because of the aforementioned litany of problems regarding measurement, reporting and recall, I will say that there's a lot of data we currently have which indicates that sexual victimisation isn't particularly gendered. Here is a Reddit post I previously made on the topic.
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