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Mostly just duplicating what other posters have said, but it seems to me that there are several possibilities, any or all or none of which may apply in any particular case:
you and your female interlocutors have different interpretive frameworks for what types of crappy interactions are sexualized. E.g., a vagrant staring aggressively at you gets interpreted as rude, but a woman in the same position might attribute the stare to her sex.
superficially similar types of unhappy events really do impact women differently. E.g., same staring vagrant, but where he makes aggressive, unblinking eye contact with you, he would instead stare at a comparable woman's breasts.
you are not as observant as you think you are, and miss subtle events which are obvious and discomfiting to the women who are victimized. E.g., /u/hooser's "grinding" story below, which seems like it would be very hard to spot.
you are not taking the same public transit at the same time or in the same place as the offenders. We know that antisocial behavior is not evenly distributed across the population, or even across individual sub-populations. Even in a "bad" neighborhood, most of the criminal behavior will be committed by a small local minority. Thus your wide range of transit use does not mean you are necessarily-likely to have bumped into particular antisocial conduct, particularly when you are not the desired target demographic.
the women are, either consciously or subconsciously using sexualized incidents, which are a politically/culturally-approved complaint, as a cover or justification for less-acceptible reasons.
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