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Going into a capslocking spiral does not make your point stronger. No, I do not think this is a systemic issue affecting everyone in the country simultaneously.
That's, uh, quite an immodest proposal. Besides vibes-based executions of anyone who seems a little too caddish, how do you propose implementing this as a practical matter?
It's hard not to see rants like this as "incel, bitter, and women-hating" when you insist that women are kept from "enduring any significant difficulties, ever, from childhood on" (do you actually... know any women? Would any of them agree with this characterization of their lives? Do you think they are all lying or delusional?) and that the solution is to make women need a man (you didn't even qualify that with "to raise a child" - I was accused of being unfair in characterizing your position as "force women to settle for someone and marry him whether she wants to or not" but that seems to be literally what you are advocating here).
Now you added a sort of "j/k... unless?" coda but if you didn't really mean a single thing you suggested, what do you actually suggest? If the situation is genuinely as dire as you claim, then we would be essentially facing doom without implementing the Dread Jim Protocols. Of course I do not think the situation is as dire as you claim.
No, you're asking me to stop arguing or opposing the measures you suggest. I will not be doing that.
I'm not on your side. I do not accept that you are arguing on behalf of men.
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