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I grew up in a very different society and culture, even if I ended up Western-adjacent by preference. I don't think 5 partners is a big deal at all, at least for a girl who isn't like 16 years old and making her way through the entire football team. By the cutoff age of 30, that's less than a partner ever 2 years (counting from 18). Even at 25, that's just a string of serial monogamy, each relationship over a year. Of course, in an Indian context that would be a serious concern to most suitors, this is a sexually conservative country.
I also take "fairness" seriously. I have well over 5 sexual partners, and I'm only in my late 20s, and I spent most of the last decade in 3 committed relationships. I find it hard to condemn women for the same behavior I engage in. I don't condemn other men for seeking different things, but they're going to have to pay a very heavy tax on their preferences. If they hold them that strongly? Well, such is their lot.
I still ask if they consider carefully what they're asking for. If someone tells you they have seen individual people for years, and it didn't pan out, that is very different from "hoeing around" in a non-commital manner. Especially when the age of marriage has shot up, such that it's socially expected that high school and college flings don't necessarily end in matrimony.
There are a significant number of "almost-as-hot almost-as-rich chaste wives" around in India. Less so in the West. And at least @2rafa, who probably mogs us in the net worth department, doesn't think that's a revealed preference.
Besides, unless they tell you, or you know them for a long time, how would you even know exactly or approximately how many men they slept with? It's the easiest thing in the world to lie about.
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