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I'm just a bit genuinely curious on your philosophy so I'm going to ask flat out. Do you actually think that you're going to get more dates with two matches a day rather than two hundred?
I'm not trying to be rude but this just isn't true. If a girl is actually physically attracted to you it takes pretty close to no effort to get laid with her. Of course as with anything it's a matter of degree-- but saying it's all or even mostly game is just straight up wrong.
If you actually took a look you'd've seen that there were quite literally multiple time measures, so this is a bit of an odd question to ask. The rest of this seems a lot like special pleading and goalpost moving. Hinge match
No.
I don’t think it’s odd, I didn’t want to do the math and figured that since you’re providing the screenshots you could tell me more information about how long the profile was active. Instead I’ll just work it out: 1,095 days, 1,980 matches, so slightly under 2 matches a day. This is a little confusing to me because I definitely clear that, but you said I was ugly and date 5s :(
That's some rather interesting framing. If you looked at the data you'd see that there were days with as many as 350+ likes and about 100 matches. The profile was more or less inactive after a couple months, so the averages are naturally brought down by the inactivity + the fact that you naturally receive less likes and matches over time.
This is more a function of time spent swiping than anything else. My stats are better than your TOP PROFILE and I'm telling you, from personal experience, that 30 likes in 24 hours is a totally unrealistic standard for "attractive."
I'm just a bit genuinely curious, where are you getting these images? Is there some forum where you trade them? They're obviously not yours.
If they were, you wouldn't be having a breakdown over them. But feel free to post your stats so we can compare. I highly doubt you had any days with 300+ likes or 100+ matches.
Nah, you're just literally not attractive. No amount of snark or tantrum throwing is going to change that. Women made the determination to skip your profile because they just don't like you that much, and that's that.
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