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… so? Trans minors I can see the issue on, because of the health hazards etc. But who the fuck cares if girls are identifying as bi on a kind of flimsy basis? How does it have any effect on the world besides making it a little bit more colorful, a bit more fun to live in, a little bit freer? Imagine a world with a restrictive binary of registered Vegetarians and Meat-eaters, with a small minority of Omnivores. I think encouraging people to view being an Omnivore as cool, and register themselves as such in greater numbers, would be a generally good thing even if some of the new Omnivores still eat many more greens than meat. On the margins, it's encouraging them to experiment more, to feel free to try more things. They can still eat a mostly-veggie diet (ie date mostly men) if that's what they actually want.
Not particularly, but frankly I'd hardly be less skeptical of any mother pushing a ten-year-old into a modeling career. The gender aspect seems very secondary to what's gone wrong here. And to the extent the mother might in this case have pushed the kid towards identifying a certain way, I'm not suddenly in favor of pushing people into a certain gender presentation just because you've flipped the polarity. I'm all about freedom. I'm against coercion whether it's enforcing birth sex or doing the exact opposite. The former is, I think you'll agree, a lot more common - there are many, many more mothers obsessively teaching their little girls to clean up nice and be pretty, than teaching the same thing to their hitherto-sons - but sure, to the extent the latter happens, I'm against it too.
I am definitely in agreement with that. What I find repugnant is all the cheerleading by the media coverage over it. We have more than enough stories of modelling being a career that can be destructive for adults, but shoving a ten year old into being a LGBT role model in an industry that devours and spits out young hopefuls is meant to be a heart-warming success story and not one of "here's a parent willing to throw their kid into a meat grinder so the parent gets attention and head-pats".
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The "I'm totally bi even though I've never done nothing about it" if confined to silly girls (and women) is relatively harmless, it's when they start trying to make this An Identity and pushing it on others that it becomes a nuisance. No, you're not queer. No, I don't care. No, don't try and tell me you are being persecuted because you are 'straight passing'. The fun part of the irony there is that they're doing this about the LGBT++++ set being insufficiently falling over themselves to celebrate the wondrousness of the "so bi it's invisible" lot; now they have to deal with the obnoxious 'I am so a real queer' types the way straight people had to deal with the obnoxious 'I'm the only gay in the village' types.
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