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It's not conditioning, I understand why she didn't want to go over and be beaten. But she was old enough to figure out "if I hesitate, I'll get beaten again; more beating is worse every time; do relatively small pain now and avoid greater pain later".
That's hard! Of course it's hard! But she's smart, and wasn't stupid as a child, she just was stuck in the moment and it wasn't until her brain shut down that she finally broke the cycle. It was abusive, but people in abusive situations learn to adapt to avoid the worst outcomes. "If I go over I'll be beaten, no no no" is the natural reaction. But it's like the stupid gom-jabbar test in Dune: learn to shut down the animal reaction so you can survive. I think she did learn to do that later. Her father wasn't pointlessly cruel, he stopped beating her as soon as she obeyed (that's deliberate cruelty, I'm not trying to claim it was anything but that). The worst abuser is the one who doesn't need an excuse, one who would have beaten her even if she obeyed. When there are rules in place, you learn to game the rules.
I realise I sound like I'm being very hard on a young child in pain, and that's valid. But I think there's also a real question of nature versus nurture: how much of her current psychology is the result of reaction to the way she was raised, and how much was a very over-sensitive in a pathological way state that would have reacted badly even in conventional parenting situations?
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