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'The most valuable things about me are my tits'? That's not striking you as unusual for a smart woman? I don't know, I get from that short piece about her upbringing why she wants to retreat into merely the physical and shut off her mind, because of the early experiences of constantly being hyper-sensitive and also having to be hyper-conscious and in control of every word and action - reverting to animal instinct is a welcome relief and I understand that part of the benefits people find in being submissive is sinking into that state of not having to think or do or be in control, just be a body moved about and reacting to stimuli under the direction of another.
But even there, she wants attention for her sexuality to be seen, to be desired, to be valued. And if she thinks that "I have until I'm 35 to enjoy being hot, then when I'm 35-45 I'll have to work at it" - then what? 45 and there's nothing there anyone cares about in her anymore, because her tits are no longer perky and there are other sets of 20-30 year old hot tits out there? That's kinda sad, and I hope she has more going on once her sexual attractiveness wanes. I hope she has people who like her for being Aella, not for being "hot tits girl".
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